I just spent the last three weeks working my butt off, borrowed money, bought another home for my mother to live in near me so I could help her, working 9 to 10 hrs a day at my work and then came home and worked another 4 to 5hrs fixing up and painting the house I bought for her so it would be a nice clean home for her. Then after a horrible trip from GA to Florida and back for three days moving her here I pull up in from of the house and she goes off on first the foliage I was trimming up in the yard (very overgrown after no one living there for several years ) she was irate to the point I had to get our of the vehicle and go in the house then she followed me in and started on the paint color of the walls that I was painting and just lost it after that. Tried calming her after a long trip to no avail things went from bad to worse she was embarrassing ranting and raving and acting like a child plugging her ears when I tried to talk to her and the proceeded outside where her plants were on the steps where I had put them on an earlier trip to knocking the to the ground breaking pots and throwing plants all over the yard. I lost it and went home to calm down and then my sister came to get me to try and talk again to her and after trying to calm her down again to no avail I just let her have it telling her what a hateful person and ungrateful for all the people I had helping me try and get this house ready for her and how evil a person she really was. She didn't even take the time to look around or thank me for all the hard work I'd put into it and was so angry she drew back to hot me and so I told her to go ahead if it would make her feel better so she did slapped my arm a few times. I have dealt with this behavior fr ok my her all my life and have tried numerous times to gain her love she's 79 and I'm almost 60 enough is enough it hurts to know that you can never change how they feel about you. I think that she is angry with me because when I was younger and she divorced my dad I had to live with my grandparents bc she and I could get along and both she and my dad chose to dote on my brother and younger sister so what choice display I have but to live with my grandparents. I love my mother but she makes it impossible to have a relationship with her. So when do you quit trying when she is dead and gone? I'm tired of struggling with the guilt of not trying to help her.