My mom always said to me and still does sometimes: What's wrong with you?
As an almost 40-year-old daughter sans children of a narcissistic mother and dealing with a partner's stubborn mother who was born in the same decade as my mother (1940s), I want to know: What's wrong with mothers?
Why do mothers need so much stuff?
Why do mothers refuse to listen to their adult children about hazards in their homes?
Why do mothers place a higher value on worthless stuff over their safety and comfort in their homes?
Why do mothers cram so much useless stuff in their homes that they can't open doors all the way, or walk down hallways without moving around stuff, or have guests over without moving everything out of the way first?
Why do mothers get away with everything and don't have to change their habits or themselves, while husbands and adult children tolerate the nonsense because speaking your mind to mothers is a godforsaken no-no?
Why do mothers not have energy to take care of their stuff in their homes but they have plenty of energy to shop all day for stuff they don't have room for?
Why do mothers clean up their kids' rooms without question and throw things away without asking, and then get mad when years later the adult children do the same after they find more expired foods in the pantry than non-expired foods -- foods that the mothers want to serve the adult children?!?!?
Why do mothers want everything that says 'free' on it?
Why can't mothers throw disposable stuff away?
Why do mothers keep piles of outdated magazines as decor and claim they will read them when they haven't in 3 years?
Why do mothers have so much stuff they have to use floors as shelves, and why do they think that looks good?
Why do mothers have to keep receipts from 50 years ago?
Honestly: What is wrong with mothers?
Does anyone get it? Is it just me? I see posts on this forum from adults who have to deal with their parents' stuff and their parents' feelings about the stuff, and the wants of the parents seems to come before the adult children's needs when the children are picking up the slack that the parents refuse to do for themselves out of stubbornness.
For example, my dad's a stroke survivor and we learned through observation that he wouldn't walk to get a plate of broccoli, but he had no problem getting to the plate of cookies as often as he wanted when it was left sitting out. Thus proving to me that old people -- even ones with disability challenges -- have the energy, they just don't want to be responsible, the same as children. Old people, in my experience, just want to gripe about how hard it is to do the responsible things, but they have no problem doing the fun things while they pass off chores they've never done to their grown children or hired hands.
I know this isn't all mothers, but for anyone who has a mother that sounds like this I'm struggling with it too and have most of my life. There's nothing I can do about it except accept it and work to not become it.
Sometimes I would rather stay away from the mothers in my life since neither sets a good example, both depress me, and I really don't care for the sarcastic prejudicial negativity both push out in their entitled ways; both also keep expired foods in their homes, so I do not want to eat at their homes any longer; but if I make a stink about not wanting to be around the mothers I'm looked at as the one with the problem.
The only thing that will change it is my mindset and that's what I have to work at. I just needed to gripe to people who may understand since no one around me does; I'm always wrong as I learned from my mother, so I probably am on this too because mothers know everything and that's one thing I'm not.
Thanks for reading.