I work full time and since he is unable to manage his usual household tasks, they fall to me to do. He is 82 and I am 58, we have been married for 20 years. I am tired, stressed out and overwhelmed. I try to pace myself with the hh chores, and allow for "me" time. But sometimes it isn't enough. He is usually easy going. but more frequently, all I hear is what he doesn't want to do. Doesn't want to bathe, go to the Dr. take his pills, eat, go to bed at night, get up in the morning. I try to tell him we need to work to gether. I don't force him to do things, but I need him to be more cooperative. I know this is horrible for him as he still realizes what is happening. He often waits till I am at my rope's end before he understands that I need him to help me . I have also developed heart problems and am worried about what would happen to him if I am unable to care for him. Day care is too expensive and he doesn't want to go. I get very frusterated.