Placed my 83 yr mom 6 weeks ago in a nice ARCH, so she's still "in transition" as they say. CG and I agreed that phone chats were only adding to mom's agitation/frustration, so it has been suspended for awhile. Since mom is ambulatory, & alert, CG takes mom out along on outings, including dinners, movies & trips to the mall (pedicures, haircuts)! I'm not charged for these additional expenses, and offers to reimburse are kindly refused. In addition, CG sends texts/videos of their outings which makes me so appreciative of her. All of mom's entire income goes to the CG for her care, and CG is aware of the small budget. She said if mom wants something, she'll cover the cost (and she has previously) if it's not too expensive, and prefer mom not have a debit card. (I had to cancel her card b/c my brother had been abusing the funds anyway.) Recently, mom got upset in a high-end department store cause her card was being denied, and wanted an expensive blouse & for the CG to leave her by herself. She told CG "My daughter would leave me to shop by myself" (Not True, of course). CG calls telling me about the situation, sounding exasperated. She told mom that she couldn't leave her alone. I suggested they go to mom's favorite inexpensive store at the other end of the mall. Mom didn't want to. I could hear mom in the background, still arguing, before CG had to hang up. I really like the CG, who goes above & beyond for mom to help her adjust. My husband say's I'm micro-managing, I don't want to, but how do I address this problem?