I am fascinated with learning better ways of caring for ourselves and our elders in the area of Nutrition and our overall wellness. So I decided to start this thread for myself and others to share information about eating nutritious foods for good health. There is much information about Diets and Nutrition that is available to all of us but their isn't as much information about the psychological and emotional aspects of eating that leave many of us feeling overweight and frustrated so I want to share information about that here also. This is a good place to share ways to help our elders get the nutrients that they need since this is a challenge for many. So please share your success strategies and Ideas so we can all help each other and our elders to be as healthy as possible in these stressful times. Of course keep in mind that we should all check with our Doctors and Nutritional professionals even in the area of Nutrition because sometimes due to medications and other health factors certain foods should be avoided.

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So glad to find threads on health and nutrition! Several years ago I lost a lot of weight- was able to gt off blood pressure medicine, less back and joint pain, and more energy. The last couple of months I've regained some because of the stress of taking care of my mom. I'm trying to get back on track before the holidays! I lost the weight by increasing protein, eating LOTS of lower carb veggies - about 6 cups per day- and limiting the fruit (even natural sugar can slow down the weight loss process). My daughter Laura and her husband are both internal medicine doctors. About a year ago they read Engine 2 and Forks over Knives. They decided to do their Bloodwork, go vegan for a month and redo their Bloodwork and see what differences it could make. They were shocked at the huge difference it made. Kenny's cholesterol was borderline but had dropped 50 points, Laura's was not high but it even dropped about 30 points. Overall there were significant improvements. I downloaded the books on my iPad and my husband read them, now he's vegan (so I'm using eating vegan- not willing to cook 2 meals). He says he feels better!

Caring for our loved ones is a huge responsibility and it is so easy to let ourselves go by the wayside because of exhaustion, depression and many others reasons. In an additional effort to help give ourselves the love and understanding and support we need to continue caring for our loved ones and ourselves we will be doing the following. Anyone is welcome to join us..

I just want to let everyone know that several of us caregivers are starting a book club for weight loss support. Their is no cost except people have to buy their own book. The book is "A Course In Weight Loss" by Marianne Williamson. It is not a diet or exercise book. The information discusses the underlying causes of weight issues. The book is a spiritual book but generic as far as religion goes. It was written with the view of helping people of all beliefs. We will be discussing one chapter a week. Starting August 2nd at the latest. If you are someone who struggles with weight issues and want to get to the root of the problem so you can live healthier and lose weight then this is for you. If you just want some support to continue on any existing program then you will find it here also. We will be using another forum for our discussions, and like I said it is free.

Contact me if you would like more information. cricketinafryingpan at comcast dot net.

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6 Simple Tips For Managing Stress For Weight Loss

1. Breathe deeply and regularly
Doing so can actually decrease the tone of your sympathetic nervous system and increase the tone of your parasympathetic nervous system, which is the portion of your nervous system that promotes relaxation and good digestion.

2. Spend some quiet time every day in prayer, meditation, or a purposeful relaxation session
All three have been scientifically proven to facilitate a relaxation response in your body that can decrease blood pressure, decrease pulse rate, and improve blood circulation. Meditation and relaxation sessions can be greatly enhanced by listening to any number of audio CDs that are designed to facilitate optimal relaxation and mental clarity.

3. Practice visualization
Almost all great athletes practice some form of visualization. As author Wayne Dyer says, "you'll see it when you believe it." Spend some time each day visualizing your ideal body and going about your day in a balanced and emotionally poised manner. You can include visualization in your prayer/meditation/relaxation session.

4. Make sure that you are getting the nutrients that you need for a healthy nervous system
Your nutritional status can make all the difference between being able to handle a certain amount of stress without breaking down versus quickly suffering health problems when faced with stress. While it's important to your overall health that you eat a well balanced and nutrient-dense diet, for emotional health specifically, it is important to ensure adequate intake of B vitamins, Vitamin D, and two long chain omega-3 fatty acids, DHA and EPA.

5. Be honest about your feelings
There's a reason why 'know thyself' is a wise proverb/saying in virtually every culture of our world. Striving to know yourself and what you are truly feeling on a daily basis is absolutely essential to preventing unpleasant but genuine emotions from becoming chronic states. Anger, frustration, and anxiousness can all help to fuel personal growth and character development if you are honest with yourself and seek to discover their root causes.

One of the best methods to increase your awareness of what you are truly feeling is journal writing. The rules are simple: no censorship, no possibility of another set of eyes being able to read your thoughts, just pure flow of thoughts from your mind and heart onto a piece of paper or your computer screen. Regular journal writing in this manner can be extremely beneficial to your emotional health.

6. Move your body
It's a well established fact that regular exercise is one of the best habits you can adopt that will help you avoid depression and stay emotionally balanced. It doesn't matter what kind of exercise you do. What's important is to be active and use your joints and muscles on a regular basis.

Tonight I listened to an amazing book called “Menopause and Beyond” by Christiane Northrup and she brought up some great points about losing weight or getting rid of the middle age spread, lol Her advice is excellent and as follows;

1. Curb metabolic stress hormones by avoiding alcohol, high glycemic foods, msg, gluten. (all these makes you crave more carbs)
2. Weigh daily to get rid of excess fluids before they turn to fat. ( I say if this stresses one out to much don't rush into this but gradually work it in)
3. Focus on portion sizes. Start using a smaller plate.
4. Wait 20 minutes before going for a second serving. If after 20 minutes your still hungry eat a little more. Take the serving dishes off of the table.
5. Exercise with the goal of a lifetime of mobility.

Eat 3 meals a day with Breakfast being the largest of the three and dinner the smallest. Eat dinner between 5-6 Pm. Allow two healthy snacks, mid-morning and mid-afternoon. Healthy snacks would be fresh fruits, nuts in moderation, veggies, beans. Avoid packaged processed foods. It's always best to eat what nature provides.

I just want to add the importance of drinking plenty of water. The normal amount of water is 8 glasses per day, anyone overweight should drink more depending on the amount of weight a person is. If a person has bladder issues this might not apply to them but the 8 glasses a day rule applies to everyone. On average each one of us will loose 8 glasses of water per day through urine, bowels, perspiration and breathing. This is not counting exercise. Getting plenty of water daily helps to clean our vital organs, digest foods better, and regulate healthy bowel movements. Most people find that by increasing their water intake everything else in their bodies begins to work better and a real plus is that it helps to elimanate excess weight.

A little side note on water and staying hydrated...when caring for my elderly friend out in CA last year I had learned that many elderly people can have low blood pressure caused by being lets keep our elders drinking healthy water!

There are many other tips to help with weight loss in earlier posts of this thread. As we start the new year lets do our best to take this information to heart and know that losing weight and keeping it off comes from healthy lifestyle changes. It doesn't happen overnight but the changes can be huge if we take them one step at a time. Just pick one thing to change and you will be on your way to a healthier, happier life.

Omg leedee that's awesome! thanks for sharing. I will have to get some for my dad :)

Hello Everyone,

I was listening to a talk show a few days ago and when the topic of preservatives came up the professional stated that we Americans eat our body weight in artificial additives and preservatives every year! I was shocked to say the least and wanted to share that with you here. Sorry I didn't write down the name and link to the study she was quoting from. It just made me realize how important it is that we eat foods from nature like fresh fruits and veggies.

Here's something I just read about Self-imposed Stress and Self Esteem..

Many of my clients also implied that they didn’t think they deserved to take good care of themselves until they lost weight. This is convoluted thinking, I’d explain to them. First, you take good care of yourself, then your self-esteem goes up. When your self-esteem is raised, your appetite and weight go down. You must take good care of yourself even if you believe that you don’t deserve it. “Act” as if you have high self-esteem. Pretend you’re someone you admire, such as a famous movie star. Make believe that you’re a thin person. Then behave in the way that you envision that person acting. Your self-esteem will catch up to your self-loving behavior. Deep inside, your inner child will be happy that you’re taking good care of her. She’ll think, Gee I must be a special little girl to deserve such good treatment. And when the little girl inside of you feels good about herself, it’s reflected in the way that you feel about yourself. Consider this: You like to be around people who treat you well, don’t you? People who say nice things to you and who consider your needs and feelings? And, conversely, wouldn’t you rather avoid people who say mean things to you and who are selfish? Well, you can have the same relationship priorities with your own self. If you’re good to yourself, you’ll be happier and more comfortable. If you neglect yourself, you’ll feel unloved and lonely. The point to remember is: First, be good to yourself. Then you’ll lose weight.

Hi ladies. I'm trying to read this thread...great one! But there is a lot here for me to catch up on. So, I'll take my time and comment when I can.
I absolutely love to cook and I try to make sure to reduce sodium, keep fats down, etc. It's amazing how much difference "layering" flavors, using fresh produce and herbs, can make in the final product. I've found some great "healthy" products which we've learned to appreciate.
Now, I'm about 20 lbs heavier than I'd like and I'm working on it. Exercise has just become a part of my routine. Maybe not as often as I should, but I'm getting better.
When it's easier for me to read (soon, I hope) I'll be able to contribute more.
Thanks for this! Carolyn

Lilli, Great post on Acid Reflux! XXXOOO Cricket

Diane, another good book on understanding our emotions is "The Language of Emotions" by Karla McLaren. Many times childhood traumas are behind the difficulties of tuning in and or expressing one's emotions. Also, some of us are more in tune with emotions than others, and visa versa. Then again we might know what we are feeling and be so overwhelmed that we are unable to express it for fear of completely losing it. (like the angry person who goes to eat to keep from blowing up). I'm glad you're enjoying this topic and I will continue to post more on this book as I continue to read. XXXOOO Cricket


When I became a caregiver, I noticed that I had developed acid reflux from the stress and still have bouts of it daily.

Here are some natural remedies that work well for me:

1. Ginger Chews. (from the "Ginger People.") These are candies that I first found at an Asian market. They have natural ingredients and a lot of ginger in them. I think the combination of sucking on the candy, and the saliva it produces, and the ginger helps calm my stomach. You can also try ginger capsules, but take them with food.

2. A friend, who also suffers from AR, told me that he had good results from eating an apple right before bedtime. (normally, you would not want to eat anything before retiring.) I tried it and it works really well for me.

3. Chewing natural gum (ie: one that does not contain asparatame, or other chemicals.)

4. Sleep with your head slightly elevated. If that doesn't help, breathe from your mouth very slowly and concentrate on your breathing until you fall asleep.

5. Avoid caffeine and heavy, oily foods at dinner and before bedtime. Avoid milk (which is something docs used to recommend for ulcers in the past)

6. Dilute 2 tbs. of raw, natural apple cider vinegar (like Braggs brand) into a liquid and drink 45 mins. to an hour before bedtime. (there are a TON of uses for this type of vinegar)

7. Liquid aloe drink is recommended. I did not get any relief from it, but it may work for others.

8. Eat yogurt that has natural acidophilus or take acidophilus capsules. I also take a garlic capsule and alfalfa tablets.

9. If you have a severe attack, try burning one side of a piece of white bread...really, until it is black. Then eat it slowly, a piece at a time. The charcoal from the burned bread helps neutralize and absorb the acid. (one hint, turn off the broiler after you burn the bread and wait a few minutes before opening the door. ya' don't want to set off the smoke detectors!)

10. I just read about mastic gum (supplement), but have not tried it yet. It is an ancient, natural remedy for stomach issues.

Constant acid reflux, belching, bloating, may be a symptom of other physical issues. One is the presence of H. Pylori a bacteria that reasearchers have linked to Parkinson's. Also, severe heartburn is sometimes a precurser of a heart attack. Do not ignore presistent stomach problems.

And as cricket mentioned in her original post, always check with your doctor before you use any new supplement or change your diet. Natural products can have interactions too.

Hey Cricket,

This is very interesting. I know I have been able to identify that I crave certain textures in addition to flavors. I tend to favor sweets more than salt. Sometimes I alternate.

I have never been sucessful at keeping a journal. I tried to do it on my computer since my fingers go numb writing, but I gave up on that too. It's like I can't adequately express my feelings in words. I know I have a lot of repressed anger towards my siblings and life with dementia.

Keep reading and sharing!


6. Exercise! It will make you feel much better in the long run than a bowl of popcorn, chips, or pretzels.Are you ready to blow your lid at your roommate, husband, or boss? Instead of opening the cupboard or refrigerator door, walk out the front door and go for a long, fast-paced walk. Have a long mental talk with yourself about your problem, your feelings, and possible solutions.
7. Throw out, or remove yourself from, crunchy snack foods while you deal with the source of your stress or anger. One time, I was angry because my future mother-in-law had gone to visit my fiancé’s ex-girlfriend. My head told me, “There’s no reason to be jealous,” but my heart hurt with fear-based feelings such as, “She likes the ex-girlfriend better than she likes me.” While trying to reconcile these conflicting thoughts and feelings, I was standing next to a bowl of party snack crackers. I was shocked to discover that I was absent-mindedly gnawing away at the crackers. They didn’t taste all that great, but the texture provided a small outlet for my frustration. Once I saw what I was doing, I took evasive action and poured the crackers into the garbage. I knew that until I resolved my feelings, it was self-loving to remove all sources of temptation. (P.S. I resolved the issue by discussing the matter with my fiancé and his mother.)
8. Call someone. Talking to a counselor, close friend, or relative will relieve some of that pent-up anger and help you feel validated. You’ll also be able to come up with some possible solutions, which will make you feel more hopeful about your situation.
9. Write down your feelings. A 1994 study of 535 women by University of Tennessee’s Dr. Sandra Thomas concluded that women who wrote down their angry thoughts in a journal were among the healthiest in her study. They were less prone to overeating, headaches, or stomachaches than women who yelled when they were angry, or who totally repressed their anger. Putting my feelings into words is my own personal choice for dealing with emotional upsets. I always feel much better after I note down every thought and emotion that I’m aware of on a piece of paper or on my computer screen. I’ve never used a formal “journal” or diary, but many of my clients like them. The beauty of “journaling” is that there are no rules governing right or wrong ways to write. It’s not like being in English 101. Instead, you simply get out a piece of paper and start writing everything you think and feel. Don’t worry about spelling, neatness, grammar, or any “writing rules.” Just write, and you’ll feel infinitely better about your situation.

All tension has left my body. I forgive myself and others. I give myself permission to let go of blame. I take excellent care of myself. My friends are loving, thoughtful, and giving.


When those frustrating cravings urge you to eat chips, crackers, popcorn, or pretzels, here are some appetite-reducing strategies:

1. Crunch on crisp vegetables dipped in low-calorie, fat-free salad dressing. Instead of potato chips, go for carrot sticks decadently dripping with flavorful dressing. Keep carrot and celery sticks, as well as broccoli and cauliflower florets, handy in the refrigerator so you’ll have no excuse to bypass this healthful alternative.
2. Ask yourself, “Am I really craving crunchy, salty foods, or am I instead craving fat?” Do you dream of crispy french fries, greasy potato chips, or freshly fried onion rings? If nothing but a high-fat or fried crunchy snack will do, then your cravings may have less to do with crunchiness or saltiness, and more to do with fat content. In that case, follow the suggestions in Chapter 21. ( I will post this at some point or if someone asks me to)
3. If you’re angry at someone else, realize that it makes no sense to punish yourself by overeating unhealthful foods. You’re devouring those salty, greasy potato chips, so you must know that you are the only person who will suffer the effects of feeling sluggish, bloated, and overweight. Take out your anger in healthy and productive ways (such as exercise), instead of attacking yourself.
4. Address the source of your stress, tension, or anxiety. When it comes to dealing with cravings, the best solution is to heal the source of the problem. What is causing your stress? What steps—even small ones—can you take to relieve some of it? Even though those steps may seem a bit frightening, push yourself to resolve some of your uneasy feelings right now. Deep down, you already know what those steps entail, but you are afraid of the consequences. You’re afraid that you’ll make things worse, instead of better. Visualize what a better life would look like, and tell others what you will and won’t accept. You’ll be doing yourself an incredible favor, and you’ll feel empowered right after you take positive action.
5. Sprinkle a minimal amount of salt on top of foods after you serve them, instead of cooking salt into the foods. You tend to taste salt more if it is on the surface of food, rather than cooked as one of the food’s ingredients. That is because salt loses its salty taste—but none of its sodium content—during the cooking process. In one study, subjects were given salt-free foods as well as unlimited access to salt shakers. The subjects added only 20 percent of the amount of salt that normally would have been included in each food’s cooking ingredients.11 One researcher concluded that, when it comes to salt cravings, “… the saltiness the mouth experiences, not the amount of sodium actually ingested, is responsible for how much someone prefers a salty food.

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Self-Directed Anger Equals Depression.

Anger is a normal, natural emotion. However many of us are taught all our lives not to express it. The ugly side of anger occurs when it is held in. That’s when anger turns into a rotted, decrepit version of itself. Anger, repressed, turns into resentment, bitterness, frustration, and depression.

Fat and Furious

Author Dr. Judi Hollis writes poignantly about how food masks anger. At her inpatient eating disorder center, many of the patients enter with a forced “everything’s just fine” grin. But in reality, everything isn’t just fine for these patients—that’s why they are seeking some assistance with their emotional pain. But because food is such an effective temporary emotional anesthesia, these women can’t admit the depth of their pain to themselves. In Fat and Furious: Women and Food Obsession, Hollis describes the early days of a patient’s treatment:

Most of my patients are admitted to the hospital with a diagnosis of depression. Of course! Who wouldn’t be depressed by the hopeless cycle of gaining and losing hundreds of pounds. Many sense that they are depressed because they’ve lived so far from their true heart’s message. They are so out of touch with spirit, so lost from their inner selves, that despite their sometimes superhuman functioning, they have become extremely depressed. For many, that depression won’t surface until their fourth or sixth day of treatment. That’s when sugar withdrawals are the worst. Countless patients enter treatment full of smiles and gratitude, telling us how sweet the intake counselor was, how much they like the nursing staff, how they can’t wait to get up early for exercise and meditation. But let’s face it, most of them have been eating their “last supper” for at least a week before they come, so those smiles are really plastered on a walking glucose bottle. That draining bottle starts hitting bottom around the fourth day, and a raging, fuming, hostile combatant wakes up. Then she hates the nursing staff, feeling “they’re all out to get me,” and has a mile-long list of grievances at how inefficiently our unit is run. But as she weathers this storm of rage, it passes, and within a few days she is embarrassed and apologetic. No need for either. It’s the nature of the beast. Depression is anger turned inward.

Tomorrow I will continue with the next part on....Self-Directed Anger Equals Depression.

I have to admit that this morning when I woke I had a burning question about salt because last night I was craving salt, or at least I thought it was the salt that I was craving last night when I distracted myself to oblivion while staying up late to get some quiet time in front of a TV show and binged on salty potato chips (something I hadn't done for over a year. I wanted to look up salt in this book CC to try to figure out what might be the reason for it. Long story short; It wasn't the salt I was really craving but the "crunchy food" it was on. So realizing this I had to take an honest look at myself and this is what I now understand better..

#1 I wasn't completely honest in taking the "what kind of emotional eater are you?" quiz. I had a 2 and maybe 3 "True" answers to the stress section of the test and I went with the 2 and ignored the 3rd true so I wouldn't have to admit that yes I fell into the Stress eaters category also! (feeling humbled)

#2 Why was I stressed last night? What was going on that made me want to take the mental escape by distraction and binge as a distracting way to cope with my tension? Then it hit me... Dad's been sick and extra demanding, whining and acting completely helpless (Martyr Syndrome) it it makes me so angry that I'm afraid that if I don't get away from him I will explode! I had been clenching my jaw a lot the last couple of days. (getting away for me in this situation was running to my computer/doggie room to download a movie via Netflix, then grab a bag of chips a few minutes later) I also find it interesting that I've downloaded a very intense action "edge of the seat" type of series to watch. This type of show doesn't allow me time to get distracted away from it and thus it makes the perfect distraction for me. Watching a series like this is great for me because I'm downloading episode to episode I can keep the distraction going as long as I need to and in my case it was until I couldn't keep my eyes open any longer. Now I'm not saying that a good distraction isn't a great escape because we all need healthy distractions. However, in my case it allowed me to ignore my inner signals and warnings to avoid a binge food. I also took an honest look around my room and realized my snack foods that I made available are all crunchy.

So in my conclusion; I see I need to remove all the crunchy snacks from my room. Find a healthier way to get a physical release from my anger. And I just remembered a method I had learned in the last year to do exactly that... So off I go for now.

This explanation described Cindy’s situation perfectly, so I worked with her to resolve the sources of her stress. We worked on basic, but productive, solutions for her problems, such as creating chores lists for her kids and having her initiate discussions with her husband regarding the need to share responsibility. I encouraged Cindy to behave assertively with her boss and co-workers. Although she feared the consequences of saying no, Cindy was very pleased with the results of her new behavior. “I had thought that asking for help was a sign of weakness. I was afraid that other people would reject me if I wasn’t ‘perfect’ or if I didn’t play Miss Caretaker all the time,” she explained. Cindy remembered how difficult it was to change a lifetime habit of pretending to always be happy. “In the beginning, it was terrifying to tell other people what I really thought. I felt like my husband would leave me and I’d lose my job. The irony was, though, if I hadn’t shared my opinions, I would have eventually left my marriage and job. The situations were unbearable, and I was miserable! Now, I’m much more honest with everybody about what my limits are. And that feels damn good for a change!” In Cindy’s case, all the introspective therapy in the world would not have helped her as much as the seemingly simple course we took: taking action. Cindy had to push herself to verbalize her need for help. Once she got a positive response from her husband, kids, coworkers, and boss, it was infinitely easier to speak up the second, third, and fourth time. She gained respect and assistance and, in turn, felt little need to continually chomp on snack foods.

Here is a copy/paste from CC book on stress eating that I found interesting and helpful..

Crunching Away at Anger

In addition to tension, we crave crunchy foods when anger becomes overwhelming. Underneath potato chip-eating binges is a monumental fury that is daunting. Many of my clients acknowledge this underlying anger. My client Cindy comes to mind: The pretty young mother of three could feel the anger building inside of her—“It’s like there’s a volcano inside of me, ready to erupt.” Yet, that awareness of the anger wasn’t enough. Cindy was petrified that if she let loose her anger, she’d behave destructively. “It feels like, if I let out my anger, I’d end up tearing all the walls of this building down. I’d scream at my husband, and I might even hit my kids. I’d slap my boss for being such a jerk. I don’t think I’d feel better after destroying everything valuable in my life!” Cindy felt she had an all-or-nothing choice. Either she held her anger at bay by constantly munching on crackers and popcorn, or she’d pummel everyone in her life. No wonder she chose to repress her anger! Her black-and-white belief system led her to believe she was choosing the lesser of two evils.

Cindy and I discussed other options for letting off steam. The most effective, but admittedly most difficult, route when dealing with anger is to heal the source of the problem. In Cindy’s case, she was angry at her family and boss for “taking advantage of how nice a person I am.” She described how her husband and kids never helped with the cooking, cleaning, or shopping; how her boss expected her to work overtime, without advance notice, extra pay, or even a “Thank you.” And how her co-workers manipulated her into completing their work. Cindy’s self-portrait was that of a “martyr-victim.” According to Dr. Helene Parker, author of If This Is Love, Why Do I Feel So Bad?, the martyr-victim appears to be at the mercy of others. But in reality, the martyr-victim is a controlling and self-centered individual. Dr. Parker writes: “A common outcome of self-centeredness is ‘The Martyr Syndrome.’ This occurs when a person doesn’t pursue happiness, then blames others for the resulting unhappiness. The Martyr tries to elicit guilt from others to feel in control, needed, and loved. Unfortunately, The Martyr Syndrome never results in good feelings or positive love.”9

solution continued on next post..

Thanks Lilli, I will definitely check the site out. :)

I just came across an interesting website while looking for remedies for my poor scratchy pup.

It is called "Earth Clinic." It is a website devoted to folk and naturopathic remedies for just about everything. I found the articles well written and the forums really helpful.

I was particularly interested in remedies for acid reflux which I developed at the precise moment I became a caregiver. There are reports, by readers, about the nasty side effects of the typical medical regimen. Scary stuff. When they switched to natural remedies their symptoms were reduced or disappeared. Most have to do with using raw, organic apple cider vinegar and other supplements which carry minor to no side effects.

I am also concerned with the connection between a bacteria called H. pylori in the stomach which causes ulcers, indigestion, constipation, etc. and its link to Parkinson's Disease. I think most of us just brush off these symptoms as stemming from stress.

When tested by physicians, those people who used the natural remedies virtually eliminated the bacteria.

Anyway, check it out. One of the first steps toward a better and healthier life is access information and variety of sources.

The five steps listed above are simple and powerful. You will appreciate the immediacy with which they heal constant cravings. To me, the butterfly feelings expand into a sensation of deep romantic love, something more delicious than any chocolate I’ve ever eaten. With this feeling, I experience a peace that almost magically fixes whatever problems are around me. When I’m serene, I’m much more productive and creative, and people treat me with love and helpfulness. What a wonderful alternative to Fear, or its manifestations of Anger, Tension, or Shame! I recommend photocopying the following abbreviated list of the five steps and carrying it in your wallet or purse.

Here is some helpful information from CC book that might help. So you understand it I need to explain her use of an acronym and the term she refers to "butterfly feeling"

Acronym is FATS: Fear Anger Tension Shame

These are the emotions that are responsible for emotional cravings. The use of the acronym is to help us remember the underlying emotions. The author created an affirmation to help us reverse these emotions with positive emotions. The affirmations is; I Forgive, Accept, and Trust my Self. also FATS.

The butterfly feeling the Author is referring to is the feelings we have all felt when first falling in love. She asks the reader to close their eyes and remember that butterfly feeling that came from the deepest part of our gut, and then imagine that feeling in the present moment to recreate the emotion.

Now here is the helpful information...


1. Decide not to eat for 15 minutes.

2. Get away from food, or destroy the food.

3. Brush your teeth or drink water to get rid of “mouth hunger.”

4. Ask yourself: “Am I feeling Fear, or its manifestations of Anger, Tension, or Shame?”

5. Replace the FATS feelings with self-love by: a. looking for, and expanding, a butterfly feeling in your gut; and b. affirming over and over, “I Forgive, Accept, and Trust my Self.

her comments continue in next post..

I want to let everyone know that I started a New Thread for Sharing Favorite/All recipes since that is something that Christina and I talked about. I didn't want to limit the thread to "only low-cal healthy" recipes but for everyone to post what their favorite ones are also. Food choices and healthy nutrition is all going to be different for us because this choice happens to be based on our individual life's path. We are all on different parts of this path so I wanted everyone to feel free to share "grandma's favorite pie" recipe as well as those low-cal recipes. Lets be honest there are times when we all want to indulge in foods that might not be the best choice but we want to enjoy them occasionally. I do this myself and in order for me be okay with it, I limit myself to a two bite rule but that's because of where I am on this path. It's all part of accepting one another for who we are and where we are in the present. XXOO

Back to the topic of emotional eating.. the book CC (Constant Cravings) touches on how our mind, body, spirit, naturally seeks balance and well being, Homeostasis. This explains how we on a subconscious level know what chemicals we need to obtain through our foods to seek balance and thus we CRAVE those foods. Basically when we don't recognize what our bodies need on an emotional and physical level our body's naturally seek to fill these needs through the use of foods. We've already seen how we have these tendencies. By looking at the foods we crave it will help us to recognize what emotions we are seeking to pacify even if only temporarily. Once we pinpoint the emotions we can seek the correct way to do what we need to do so then the body won't seek to get what it needs through cravings. It is like working in reverse. I will start copying and pasting more information along these lines and in addition what some of the strategies are for getting these needs met .

I want to make a statement that I have learned to be very profound and that is; for the persons who constantly struggle with weight issues the best diet is a balanced one. Balance is natural healthy foods in the right amounts. Fad diets and extreme dieting demands only damage us on all levels. We all have access to information about what foods are healthy and unhealthy and it is a very personal choice that each person has to make for themselves. I personally believe in the healing power of nature. And it is my goal to heal myself so that my medical doctor will take me off medications. I currently am halfway to my goal.

While I think it's good to share what knowledge we have with each other about healthy foods, dietary changes to improve our health, supplements, etc. It is my sincere desire for all of us to keep criticism and judgement of others and each other out of our conversations because even criticism when it's correct is very harmful on an emotional level and only inflicts pain. Rarely does criticism bring about change. Most of us who struggle with weight issues have been beating ourselves up far worse than society or others ever could. It's the vicious cycle of looking in the mirror and criticizing oneself about weight, continuing the dialog throughout the day until by the end of the day we are so beaten down that what do we do but turn to food to make us feel better, only to lead us back to the guilt, and it starts all over again. This is the insanity of the overweight person, it leads to self hatred, It is a living breathing hell.

The first step any overweight person should take is to start looking into the mirror everyday and look into their eyes and say "I love you" even if one doesn't feel it at first it starts change at a subconscious level. As soon as any critical thoughts come up about oneself we have to stop the thoughts and look for something positive to replace them with. Focus on some good things about oneself, we can all find at least one thing we like about ourselves.

I'm so glad that everyone is enjoying this topic and I really appreciate the input from all of you. Lilli, I have been closely following alternative treatments for Cancer for years since my family has had the tendency to grow things. Just a week ago I watched a movie called "the beautiful truth" that exposes more of the secret use of Mercury and how it has caused many of us to be toxic and more susceptible to auto-immune diseases. It is also a cancer documentary on successful treatments of cancer that have been around for years and how the doctor who was helping people with these methods was being secretly poisoned by others in the medical profession!! For anyone interested in this film it can be downloaded via Netflix streaming or rented. I to believe that for treatments to be affective, healing needs to take place in the mind, body and spirit.

Alternative treatments to Cancer

Did anyone catch the article (from ABC News) on the Yahoo home page about the young woman who discovered that she had cancer? Her husband is an MD - she follows naturopathic practices.

At first they treated her with conventional medical treatments, such as chemo. Not only did it not work, it left her weak, threw her into early menopause, and deprived her of childbearing. She summoned the courage to try a different path and sought alternative natural treatments. Her cancer is currently in remission.

What I also found interesting was the dialog between the doctor hub and her. To this day, he will not admit that, perhaps, western medicine does not have all the answers - or at the very least, there are some natural therapies that could augment medical treatments.

Her comments on summoning all the parts of her being, i.e., physical, emotional, spiritual, were compelling. I have always believed that we are more than the "sum of our body parts."

She wrote a book about her experiences called, "I Dreamt of Sausage." (??) She describes it as a "story about recognizing the voices in your head and knowing which ones to listen to."

It was also interesting that her husband gained from the experience when he wrote, "I am much more understanding of what a patient goes through and much more willing to listen to their thoughts. Doctors can easily forget."

Now, wouldn't it be much easier if medicine got back to the business of wellness and including the patients in their own healing?

The article is still on Yahoo...they shuffle the articles so much that it may not be there tomorrow. If not, try the ABC website.


Cricket: finally got a chance to read all your posts and, pardon the pun, "digest" them (couldn't resist.)
And just to add credence to the info., I had a gawdawful day today and all I could think of was to find something tasty to eat and get away from it all.
I took the test and had about the same number of "Ts" in all categories. One thing that I think we all share is that our emotional eating began or got much worse with caregiving. I was slender until Mom moved near us over 4 years ago. In that time I feel that I have not only gained weight, but did damage to my general health...mental health too. I just cannot keep on doing this to myself.
This information was really helpful because it makes you focus on the things that can "push your buttons." I have said often, that, in my hectic life, food is the only thing that doesn't bite back (which really isn't eventually bites back.)
The mental conversation I have with myself is, "why bother...whenever I get some time to focus on myself, Mom has one of her meltdowns and everything I gained goes out the window."
The worst part about caregiving is that you never know how long it will go on. I think if someone could say to you, "you only have to do this 5 years" somehow you could handle it. Right now it seems like a long, neverending road.
I have lost 15 lbs. but have stalled. I am trying a different approach. In the past, I tried various diets (like the "Rotation Diet" the best.) This time I am "anti-dieting" and just trying to eat better - which I did this summer because of the abundance of fresh fruit and veggies. That is how I lost the 15. Now winter is around the corner and my body instinctively wants heartier foods. So we shall see.
I am now interested in techniques I can use to "disconnect" from the buttons vs. overeating.
Lastly, I wonder how "normal" people eat. Do they just eat their main meals and then stop? do they have a higher metabolism? did God just like them better? (just kidding God....) I don't think I have ever had a normal relationship with food....especially coming from a culturally foodie family. When I was dating my hub, he commented, "boy, your family really likes to talk about food." Heh, heh, he should have run for the hills right then and there!
Anyway, I am looking forward to the continuation of this discussion and all the new topics about health. I have learned so much from everyone here (Chrsitina saved my feet and they are truly grateful to her :0)

I love this site, Cricket! Good job. Very helpful information.

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