My 88 year old dad has mild dementia. He developed blood clots in his lungs and is on blood thinners. We tried to keep him home but he always wants to get up and wander around and "go outside for a walk". My mom just wants to sit in her sewing room and won't keep tabs on dad. We were working on getting home care in for a few hours a day so they could take dad for a walk, make sure he is eating and help out around the house. Mom resists any kind of help and says she can take care of dad. After discussions with home health care, we decided dad would be safer in a Memory Care facility. He has been there a week, mom goes over everyday for lunch (she hates it). My dad is very social and very mobile but no one else in the facility is so he has no one to talk to. He keeps telling mom "I'll be a good boy if you let me come home". This morning mom begged me to "release" dad and let him come home. I actually agree with some of her arguments. "He is wasting away there with no one to talk to", etc. I am so torn, did we place him too soon? Should we bring him home and go with having caregivers in several hours a day to keep him busy and from going on walks by himself? Did the "facility" use scare tactics with us just to get us to move him there? All these things keep running through my head. I would love to just have mom go live with him there but she absolutely refuses to do that.