Today I was talking to my grandmother to see how she was doing. To recount for a moment, the last time I posted about it she was in the hospital because she said the doctors are saying she is having heart congestive failure problems and will be needing surgery. Fast-forward a bit; she has been home and receiving in-home care from health aides and therapists. Other than rushing there when she went to the hospital's emergency room, I haven't seen her due to work and especially school. Thank God she has been getting visits and care from some family members and neighbors. And I do really mean thanks to you, God.
My mother who lives closer by, also has been going through it and seems to be recovering well from her hip surgery, 'cause she's been out and about. Haven't seen her either, though I have tried and she herself wasn't available for one reason or another. So, in between a busy work and school schedule that's been the same with deadlines every week, I've just been calling them to see how they're doing. So, today in between studying for a test and other work I still have to turn in, I texted my computer savvy mother to say 'hi' because I knew she'd like my special emojis and I'd also not have to end up arguing with her, because she's also narcissistic and usually hard to talk to. And then I called my not-computer-savvy grandmother, who is a bit easier to talk to, but hard in the sense that she is very uncomfortable because she clams up without trying to give you feedback. She'll just listen and go, 'Oh' a lot. Gets frustrating. Somehow I got some information from her today, I guess after getting sick of hearing me probe which I don't mean to do, but like I said she makes me do all the talking because she will clam up. So, I asked if she knew what was going to happen next, and basically she said she guesses after the in-home care stops, she will be going for the heart surgery. Firstly, I thought at her age of soon to be 94, Medicaid always paid for this care? Even though it's only part-time hours, I was hoping it'd keep going especially because she keeps saying 'no' to nursing homes. I told her it should if she told the doctors she still needed it. Because then it wouldn't be as easy to get her groceries and stuff, and I hope she doesn't try to drive her car.
Another thing, I'm so busy I don't even know if I can do Mother's Day with them (I have my usual deadlines for school who doesn't recognize that day as a day off). If I don't show up, it's a wrap for them because no one else will come to visit, or take them out to eat, or such on that day. Plus, my spending money is questionable right now. If I just send cards and call, is that enough or does that seem cold? Would try to send flowers as well, depending on the costs. I know I have to figure this out in the end, but thanks for any feedback you might provide.