Maybe this info will be helpful to someone here. I spoke with a veterans advocate today and whether we qualify for aid and attendance or not (it looks like we may, 1100.00 month) there are still some important things they are offering to do for us. They will draft a carer compensation agreement that will protect us in the event a spend down becomes necessary and they are offering to do some kind of transaction that will keep mothers estate completely out of the probate process. I was told this VA benefit takes about 4 months to finalize but if mother dies in under 4 months the application becomes void. A package is being mailed to us with a list of necessary documents and a questionnaire. The 1100.00 a month is meant to compensate me and have enough to hire additional personal care. Hospice is already involved here but that doesn't seem to impact this veterans benefit. Mom owns her home and property, receives about 1400.00 a month and has liquid assets of over 20k. The advocate also said they could help us with financial compliance decisions. (redirecting/shielding assets) . I hope this info is helpful to someone.