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My mother is 86 years old with dementia and lives with me. She has hallucinations of bugs and is extremely fearful of bugs, lint, dirt, anything that COULD be a bug. I just found a HUGE fake spider in one of my kitchen drawers! It is a drawer I don't use all that often so it could have been there for a week or more. My husband knows nothing about it so it HAD to be someone doing it to scare my mother. But who????? The only people I leave in the house with her unattended is a couple of occasional sitters. The thought that one of my sitters did this to scare my mother makes me sick to my stomach at the very least.

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Have you spoken with her doctor about her hallucinations ?
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sorry meant can not keep my house clean enough.
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Thanks Mica it helps to hear that someone else deals with these fears. It is life consuming for me as no matter how hard I try I can not keep my clean spotless to the point that she needs it to be. Thanks for the suggestion I was thinking of doing that - showing it to the sitters without accusation and see if I can get a response from either one that is telling. I am almost 100 percent confident that it was not my one sitter who I have been using for a year but the other one is new and I just do not know. I wish I could come up with another answer for how it got there but despite racking my brains I just can not. Very very cruel and I shudder to think of her reaction had she opened that drawer.
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My mother is the same about seeing "bugs". Even when I showed her the clean counter top, then in front of her put some crumbs= BUGS! she cried out.
Linolium floor patterns, any small pattern on material.
Now as far as the fake spider, it is cruel beyond words. All i could think of is to say without accusation that you found it, like look what some kid left here how cruel.
Or somehow monitor the place when you are out.
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