s a caregiver to my 88 year old grandmother… I am not perfect, I cannot read minds and most of the time I go out of my way to ask if things are needed or if she’s hungry/ wants to do something / needs help. But then there’s times where I’m doing my own thing like homework or out with my boyfriend, while leaving an abundance of accessible foods/needs that she is 100% capable of getting and somehow it is turned around into me not being caring, me starving her and being an evil person.
9/10 my boyfriend comes over, and tbh it’s not fair for him because that is a lot of driving and gas money. Of 7 days a week if I go over there 3 times, which rarely happens ( usually around 4-5pm and home around 11:30pm) it should be completely fair. But it isn’t apparently. Apparently my 21 year old self is selfish for wanting to live a life and not miss out on things. This is described as me being a poor communicator and a egotistical person. I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong or why I am being lashed out at. I don’t get sleepovers with my boyfriend at his house, I have to call and ask permission to see a movie, or go swimming and I’m 21 years old. Because if I don’t and something happens everyone blames me. She used to care about being a burden but now she won’t share me with anyone. I’m really having a hard time being positive.