I am 41 years old and I am taking care of my grandmother, but for much of mine and my sister's lives my grandmother has always been a negative and nasty person and it's gotten much worse since my grandfather and mother had passed away. She's saying things that are inappropriate and often times abusive and has done it in front of people. People have said to me "oh she's old she can say whatever she wants" yet they're not the ones who are dealing with the verbal abuse on a daily basis. I notice that many people are faced with caring for elderly parents and grandparents, but what is unfair is the way many of us are treated on a daily basis. My grandmother has been a toxic person all of her life she's not very nice to people and has said things even stuff of a racist manner to people that has driven many not to come around. She even had the nerve to say I should forget about marriage and a family because nobody wants me and I am too old. How long can you listen to that kind of negativity until it becomes wearing on you.