Today is my birthday. I cooked, made some of my favorite things and I couldn't stop crying while doing it all.

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I guess I was having a pity party since nobody in my family calls or emails or texts to see how I am doing with that woman next door. All she did was the same as always. Lay around,take pills,overdose on pills,talk about how sick she is.etc.etc. So my day was just another day in my life. I cooked,cleaned,potted flowers for myself,and just basically felt so lonely. When I went back over there just now she starts telling me "who called you?" anybody call you? I just didnt answer,I had nothing to say to her dumb ass. She is plotting to call 911 in the morning and I am glad today is over now.

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Hi Deb, Happy belated birthday to a kind person who deserves life's best.
I, too, cried on my birthday because a close family member knew it was my birthday, but did not acknowledge it. I am glad you planted flowers. I love them too. I wish i could have taken you go lunch on your special day. What i can and will do, is say a special prayer for you.
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Deb, I'm sorry you are having such a rough time.
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Deb, when it is my birthday, I call it my birthday MONTH.
SO many more days to celebrate, it doesn't matter if anyone
remembers, both the pain and sharing my celebration is
spread out over the month.
After a trip to Trader Joe's for my cake, I'm good.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRL!!! I soo know what your going thru as I've felt that way for so long too, especially since the guy I take care of is getting more irritating as he gets closer to the end of his life. I do understand that this is hard to face and he may not really mean all that is said, none the less, it has been said. He is also about the only one who offers a small gift to me for my b-day, as my own with 6 siblings, of which 2 txt me H.B.Day, and I don't expect mom to as she has dementia from a stroke, so some days are better than others. I too love gardening, I think its the feeling of goodness in living things, and I gave my granddaughter her first set of sunflower seeds and she and her mom planted them and she was so proud of them growing and looking so pretty. I hadn't realized the extra bonus of the pleasure of sight of those little seeds! May you also know the pleasure your garden brings to others, even when your not looking! Know your thought of daily, even on your special day! Take care and God Bless! mzlinda
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DEB!!!
I'm glad you're feeling better. I know how it hurts to be forgotten on your birthday by those family members that are supposed to care for you. I have one adult son, a daughter in law, 6 grandkids, one brother, and of course Mom (but she doesn't count because of her dementia). Not one of them called, texted, or sent me a card for my birthday in March. This is the second year it's been that way. Last year I was terribly hurt, this year I'm just pissed off about it. They all seem to have my number when they need a loan or to borrow my truck, but they couldn't even send me a simple little birthday greeting.
Well, times are a changing!! I guess I know where I rate in their lives. It's time for me to re-evaluate where they rate in my life.
Just like with caregiving, it's amazing how we can get more support from a group of folks on a website than we can with our own families.
Again, Deb Happy Birthday to you and I wish you many more!!
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Happy birthday Deb! :)
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Happy Birthday, Deb!!
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Hee! My husband grew up in Eden Prairie and my father in law and a sister in law and her husband still live there. I get there quite often. We're about 25 miles west of there in a dinky town. :)

So glad to be 'here' for you. You deserve it!
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I really dont know how I would survive without all you. From the bottom of my heart thank you all. I feel so much better now. You all are more family to me than my so called "flesh and blood". Thank you again.((((hugs))).
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Happy birthday, Deb! I planted some today, too! I love gardening and couldn't wait to play in the dirt. I haven't tried sunflowers since I was a kid but I have been thinking about adding some that will give me seeds for eating and a smaller type for cut flowers. Enjoy your new birthday garden!
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