There has got to be a book! To protect others from a narcissist.

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A guidebook that helps people navigate the things the NARCISSIST says to others. The common phrases they say, the things said that unsettle others, put others on the defensive, that push others into fear, obligation, and guilt.
Some things said that raise red flags to most people, but turn the unsuspecting into jelly.

Some lies and omissions can be dangerous. Is there a guidebook so that all relationships with a narcissist do not have to go "No Contact?".

Disclaimer:
Just because a person says these things, does not make them a narcissist.

What has been said to you? What are some red-flagged conversations you have had?

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Another good book for dealing with narcissists is  Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward.
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The book Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend helped me. I've gone no or very limited contact with some members of mom's side of the family. For me, it's not just the things they say, although those are damaging, it's the mental illness, lying, manipulation, and overall crazy-making behavior. It's sad sometimes because we don't have "normal" family relationships, but I am exponentially happier when I don't have to deal with their drama all the time (although in my caring for mom, they still go through their attorney to try and create problems), and I can't say I really miss it.
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Ok. Thank you everyone for your responses and advice, it was really helpful.
It is a process, a steep learning curve maybe. I cannot recommend the book I ordered, but maybe CMagnum's book will help others.

Reading back.....Barb, now I am laughing at myself.....don't think that I can be a "tough as nails" type of person, but that sounded good at the time I wrote it.
It is really not my job to be so alert at all times that I would even be able to effect behavior modification on an adult, my husband. Being hypervigilant is just another way to make myself crazy.

I need to relax! Lighten up. Get a life. That is for sure.
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Thanks, CMagnum. One can often look a book up on Amazon and read a sampling.
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I will check that out.
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This book looks helpful.

Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-AbsorbedJul 1, 2013
by Wendy T. Behar
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Thanks for asking Lizzy.
I have ordered the book, it will be delivered Friday.
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You got it...ugly, and fast. Not fast when you look at the big picture. It got ugly one year ago when she started throwing the $1 clause around stated in the Will should anyone Contest or try to Invalidate the Will.

No one is or has contested or questioned the Will. She has taken the Will on an off road adventure.

Send, how are you doing? How’s your situation?
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These situations can get so terribly ugly, can't they? Mine very similar to MountainMoose. Even with a conservator ordered by the court to audit mom's accounts and spending, the twisted narc sisters still did not believe that I was not financially exploiting.
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There are caregivers who know about this. So sorry Lizzy, that you are anywhere close to this. Being fired by 2 attorneys is a red flag.
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