Not a question, just a sad day....As many know, my brother and I are moving his father and his wife from a AL home we placed them in...in AZ, where they lived, it is not working out so we are now moving them here, FL and placing them in a beautiful facility . He is 90, in very poor health and deaf, she, dementia maybe stage 5, declining rapidly.
Today was her birthday, I called, she answered, I wished her a Happy Birthday, dead silence at her end...finally she said "Oh Yes, Yes It is my Birthday". So, I ask "Did you get the cards we sent"? Dead silence again, so I plow through "Have you checked the mail"? Her response, she doesn't remember. Just last year, as soon as they rec'd any type of gift or card she would call immediately and thank us. We sent a Fathers Day card last month, the same thing, since he is totally deaf, responding has been her job! This is now lost, and I feel so sad, her decline is so evident and rapid. We first noticed this 5 years ago and convinced her to go to a neurologist, she went to the first appointment, the doctor scheduled her for a brain scan, she did the scan and never went back, if she had, possibly a med like Aricept would have helped to slow her progression down, now the disease is on fire. She is a lovely person, I detest this disease and what it has done to her. I am glad that we made the decision to move them here, at this point we do not know how long he will live or how long they can stay in AL, due to her issue, they both may have to go into MC, the home we are placing them in does offer a step up program so the move will be somewhat easy, although I find nothing about this matter easy.