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It is most difficult to have to watch her suffer so much. I find it disturbing that society refuses to let animals suffer but will let humans go thru horrendous suffering without a second thought. I could adjust to her dying easier if I didn't have to sit by an watch her suffering with her asking me to help and I can't do any thing for her legally.
She doesn't deserve to suffer this badly it is cruel to attend to suffering and not approve of that process.

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Lounging,

I too am sorry you are going through this. I also agree with you it is extremely inhumane.

Please get in touch with hospice.

They were very helpful to mom and I. She passed away in July under their care, they kept her comfortable and were very good at explaining to me what was happening.
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Lounging,

I'm so sorry that you are hurting. It is awful to watch a parent decline at such a rapid pace. I watched my dad go through it. Do you have hospice? We had hospice for my dad and between the morphine and the Ativan he had no idea what was going on. He wasn't even awake those last few days.

Many people feel as you do, including me. Someone whose body is plagued by disease and whose mind is riddled with dementia and yet they go on, day after day, while the family disintegrates from stress or dysfuction. It's obscene.

I hope you have hospice. They will make the suffering of you and your loved one much more bearable.
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And I understand your position. I have been 100% caregiver for 15 years of both my grandmother and my mother so they would never have to go to a rest home. But my brother who is oldest is executer of the finances. Not that it really matters but he only started visiting her after I insisted that since he was retired he should spend time with her so he graciously gave two Wednesdays a month and drove an hour and 15 mins to come see her. Wow !!! Really?? Then only stayed 3-4 hours ea visit. Yet thinks he can tell me what should or shouldn't be done with her? So ....needless to say....this is my house he is a visitor in my eyes not a care giver of any kind. Its not going to be easy I can see already the problems that are coming.
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Actually I have that kind of legal rights I was talking about the fact that people will put a horse down if it breaks a leg or pets being euthanized so they don't suffer but there is nothing for humans who are suffering. That is inhumane. Animals have more rights not to have to suffer than humans.
I can not stand to watch her suffer and not able to help her. She has stopped eating to speed up the end process. So now on top of it all she's now refusing to eat and starving herself. Ive been around dying and death but so much harder when its my mother.
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