Placed my Mom in a nursing home 2 weeks ago. She is glum, belligerent, rude to staff, really unhappy about being there. I have explained that there was no other place for her to go, with her medical problems, etc. She is forgetful, just angry really and does not share with anyone but me. I dread the visits. How can I help her perk up? I am 60 and feel the clock ticking myself. Ideas for self-care?