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Caregiver for mother and adapting to the changes that come with aging and dementia together . It’s a new life for both her and I.Once I become used to a new behavior or symptom I pivot . Then I’m on alert for that particular change . It may come and go.Each challenge requires a pivot, patience and a new plan to deal with it and care for her. I find comfort reading your posts knowing I’m not alone and learn from your challenges as well ! We are all in different boats paddling together and each day is different . One day at a time together 💜

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Good morning all, this is new to me. I am recently a full time care giver, I also work full time, work from home blessing and a curse. My mother (a narcissistic bi-polar patient, from the time I was a child I have been the parent)is now starting to have dementia. She is fine one moment and then can go to screaming and aggressive the next. My father who has always been my rock had a stroke 6 years ago now has vascular dementia. He is very angry all the time wont take meds wont talk to anyone. The negativity in this house is very hard to deal with on a daily basis. I walk and try and wake up in the morning and be grateful for what I do have. I'm going to be looking through any and all articles I can on this site.
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This is why caregiving was hard for me. I like order. I don't do change well. I adjust and then just as I adjust, there is a change I have to deal with. I ended up placing my Mom. She did better, more freedom, and so did I.
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Pivoting works as long as you have control of the ball. Sometimes you lose possession due to pressure of caregiving and/ or family. Hold on to your game plan and remember that there are no rules that apply to winning. Keep pivoting and hold on!
Thank you for letting us know that you found peace here as much as I have. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
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Patience is key and learning how to take breaks in between. You can't always be on.

Take a break when you can.
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You put this very well!
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Amen to that!

Being a caregiver is all about being flexible, being a preemptive planner and having no expectations.
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