
Many of us, myself included, come from a dysfunctional family which adds a lot of weight to the challenges of caregiving. I have read stores on various threads on other topics and decided it would be good to have a thread just for this topic for people to share, vent and discuss.
The idea for this thread originated on the thread named "The Caregiver....How are YOU doing today?"
Good you decided not to go. I think that would have made it harder for you, the fact that there wasn't many people there.
I'm sure that L was looking down and appreciated what you wrote. You were so good to him and your mother. That is quite weird, he being especially a devout Catholic, having his service in a Lutheran church. Catholics usually don't do that. I was raised as a Catholic, and they do have their rules when it comes to death.
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
I am very glad I did not go. And more drastic decline in mom. For practice go pages back, you will find it. Not sure which number you should pick, but guessing it is probably 3 or 4, maybe 5. It is on 3. Thank you edit feature.
But, we can now edit for a limited amount of time, not forever.
Thanks for explaining the format to me. But if you can imagine.......I'm on an incredibly old dinosaur. There's no edit feature on my page, no pages feature either. The only thing at top,
is the Title of the thread, Caregiver Forum, and Family & Relationship Discussions.
Then there's these five little boxes having to do with social media like Twitter, etc.
Oh well, in the back of my head I do need to get a computer upgrade at some point.
Anyway, thanks for the info, it's not going to keep me from posting.
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
How you doing hun? I didn't know you were sick also. I have been too.
Today, I made several very strong cups of Rosemary tea, with some garlic.
This is really good for the bronchials if you're having those issues right now.
Thinking about you, and that you feel much better. Feeling like this sucks doesn't it??"
Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
I will be thinking of you and your sister next Tuesday, when she has her surgery that all goes well. I know you will be helping her, but it will give you a little down time from your address, no?
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
Margeaux
Margeaux, Sharyn, wishing for you both to be all better very soon.
It will all take some getting used to.
I like "interpretive communications", so it probably reads: Carrots, onions, and celery.
She keeps coming close to hitting concrete dividers on the highway.
She insists that Watergate took place in the 1960s', when it actually happened in 1973.
What's worse is, my family doesn't believe me about her decline. Except that, that the have(hearing aids) themselves.
Ali -wondered if you went back to sleep for the day. Too funny about the dog.
Margeaux – glad you are starting to recover. Hope the acupuncture helps. The new format is confusing. The most recent post is now on page 1 as glad described. Weather is above freezing here now - a big change and that often brings bugs with it.
Sharyn - good to hear from you and that you are getting better. You probably need a lot more rest. The cough medicine and soup should help.
Chris – your mum probably shouldn’t be driving. Sorry that you don’t have family support. Can you document what is happening to help them and her doctor understand? Sometimes the doctor is the one who can best deliver the news
Coughing myself now and sinuses draining. I have been sleepy all day so may be fighting something. I have no intention of getting sick if I can help it. Gotta get my hair done tomorrow. I am a week late for colouring. I’ll take some Cold FX (ginseng) .Better make some chicken soup too! Hopefully this is it.
Now if I could just sell the tv, mini frig, 50 cup coffee maker... :-)
I have quite a few things listed. Of all the things I hoped to get a small amount of money for, it wasn't the vintage odds and ends, but some people like them. I'm glad some things found an appreciative new owner.
Hey, someone just called about the older TV here! I just want to get it out of the house, honestly. I'm saving the nicer one for my father, the other can go. They're both at least 20 years old, nothing special.
I was going to post about something else but the phone call just now made me forget. Stay warm and off the ice, all.
ETA: Can we get an Edit and/or Delete button? I posted before I saw your comment, Sharyn. Such silliness. That soup sounds very good. I hope it's hitting the spot and helping you feel better.
Golden-I have felt for some time, that she shouldn't be driving anymore. I don't know who my mother's GP/PCP is.
I have told my aunt(mother's younger sister) who is a nurse. But even she was in denial. Until I chewed my aunt out.
The other problem I am up against is, my (congenital)physical health invariably gets' used against me. The sense of being perceived by my family, that I must not know what I am talking about since I have never driven a car.
When landlord sold house she had a few paintings in hall I took two. Looked at aartist then looked the artist up it was well known artist. I gave to my son saying check it out it might be worth something. Then I happened upon some oled confederate monies. a 50 and 10 1800's I think maybe worth 30 dollars. I am a hoader sought of then something hits me and I just throw stuff out without a thought don't even look. I think I took after my mother in that sense. :_)
A lot of value of a vintage/antique item depends on how much time you have to wait for the buyer who will give you best price, and also how you find that particular buyer. I'm not a known antiques dealer, I can only sell wholesale, that's how I look at it.
There is one or two more pieces that I think I'll try to get a couple hundred for -- one is a handmade or possibly manufactured antique child's sled. It isn't vintage style with metal runners, it's all wood, carved to be rounded on the bottom. I've seen one similar in an antique store, asking few hundred dollars.
There are lots of vintage curios, tchotchkes, glassware still here. I will visit some local antique malls and check out prices and see if any interest in those items. I've seen similar on sale at other antique malls and it doesn't sell for much (such as carnival glass items or gold rimmed or etched champagne glasses).
Get feeling better everyone that is dealing with the flu crud that is going around. It is knocking everybody for a loop. People at work with it are out for several days.
My mother has come extremely close to making dents in more than the bumper, on more than one occasion. Her medical POA is someone that is not a relative.
I should not try to be funny when I should be sleeping.
Had more rain during the night. Traffic is moving, probably not cold enough for it to freeze. The worst of it missed this area. Other places have quite the damage, trees down, electric out which can be for days.
sharyn - you sound better
glad - hope it doesn't freeze - looks like you avoided the worst of it.
chris - I am glad your aunt apologized. I gather you are a passenger sometimes as you see what your mum is doing when she is driving. Two things: 1) if you are still a passenger is it safe for you to continue to be one? 2)Could you and/or aunt inform the POA about your mother's decline and your concerns about her driving?
As you live with her, you are the one in the best position to describe what is happening. It is pretty common for family members,who do not see the senior daily, to deny that any decline is happening. Sadly, it often takes some sort of event or crisis to open people's eyes to reality. The beginnings of decline is a difficult period to negotiate
Slept well and want to to sleep more, but I think I am past the worst of this bug Took some OTC meds and didn't cough at all last night once I went to bed. I am thankful. Mother lost her hearing aids so I need to arrange for the hearing aid guy to visit her for new ones. I hope this is not a new behaviour. She doesn't go anywhere without being in a wheelchair and staff pushing her, but they searched her room any couldn't find them. :(
After she almost rear-ended a stopped truck a couple years ago, that was in turn/merge lane. I stopped riding in the car with her for at least six months. Now this. So I don't think I will ride with her again.
I will inform my aunt. But I still doubt she will listen.
I definitely know that I am in the best position of observation. But my physical health is used as an unspoken excuse by family, to doubt me. The only family local to me is my father n' step-mother. But this isn't of a major concern to them. Her younger brother, sister(nurse), two cousins, and my younger brother n' sister-in-law. All live 50-3,000mi. away. So they definitely don't physically see what I see. The only ones' who potentially could see what is happening. Is my father n' step-mother who only live 15mi. away. My sister-in-law's parents' do live in the southern end of the same county. But, The don't have a vested interest in the severity, nor outcome, of the problem.