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SEND, so sorry to hear about your Adopted Mom's recent passing, I somehow missed it, in my rambling on about my own stupid problems! Sorry Love!

Mica, ohhh, that package would have pissed me off too! I hope you gotbyour aggressions out, but also hope it wasn't something Fabulous, that you could have passed along to someone else! You might save it, for prosecution later on, it could be valuable to your case!

Golden, hope you are feeling better!

Alli, that HUD housing sounds perfect for your Dad! I hope brothe comes to realize thisvtoo, before the apartment doesn't endvup going to someone else! How does he like the Jitterbug phone? I hear they are great for chubby fingers and low vision!

I also got on my FIL about his lack of appreciation and thanks, for all his Son does for him. Of course he denied it, until I told him that I hear his Son complain Every Day about it! Now today and ever since, he is going overboard on his Thank-you's, so hubby now doesn't feel like he's being genuine. I can't win for losing here!

Couldn't figure out where that awful smell was coming from, After hubby spent 2 hours cleaning up after yesterday's incident. It seems that Charlie-girl got into the poo, so easily accessible, after FIL failedvto shut the bathroom door with his poopy and soiled clothing in a pile on the floor, and she must have rolled around in it, as Dogs just Love to do! Barf, another bath for Charlie-girl, and she just has one a few days ago, that aught to teach her! Spoke to the Old Man about it too! No real reaction though. Next time he falls, we'll just leave him laying in his own filth for a while longer! That aught to teach him! Just kidding!
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Hi all! The FOG squad are at it again. Actually have been at it all week. Today my aunt called and said that my niece and her husband had been to Mom's visiting. My aunt said that she was there after they left and she noticed my Mom's jewelry box overturned on the dresser. She asked my Mom if she had turned it over. Mom said no. When they checked the contents 4 rings, diamond earrings and all of Mom's good jewelry were gone. Also missing was a new kindle Fire that I got Mom for Christmas. She was to start a class to learn how to use on Tuesday so that she could read books. I called my niece's father-in-law who is an attorney and told him that if His son and my niece did not take the missings items to my aunt's house for her to check, I would go to the police and report my niece and her husband. I called the manager at the apartment and told him that I did not want them admitted to visit. Later my brother called and told me that if I didn't want them taking things from Mom I should come and move her to live with me. Is there no end? He also told me that if I hadn't refused to lend them money, they wouldn't have had to take the jewelry.
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That's awful upset!... I agree with you... It's a disappointing, disgusting, ill world... (and, I used to be positive... sad)
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Upset, I wish you could have gotten a recording of that. Does he still have the things? I hope so.
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Wow, Upset... somehow it's your doing that user family took jewelry from your mom??? That's so ridiculous, it's hard to understand how your bro does the mental gymnastics to make it "logical" to put any blame on you. I hope your niece gives the things back. I hope the threats to get Law Enforcement involved works.

My druggie cousin's stepdaughter took my grandmother's good jewelry years ago... at least that's the story I heard. It's terrible. I would pay double whatever was paid by a pawn shop just to get those items back. :-(

How come BRO isn't helping to protect his mother from preying family?? How is it that you (far away) are to blame but he's next door but has no responsibility... just GRR and UGH.
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Upset ~ I think I keep getting your details confused with another user. Without pictures and more details in profiles, sometimes I run your situational details together with someone else's. I know I thought you were getting married before, right...? Holy cow, I'm going to start a "Caregiver CV" for everyone on here lol. (sorry... feeling a little sheepish since I keep getting your details confused... but please remind me, if you don't mind -- is it your bro that lives next door to your mom? Thanks.)
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Well, all sounds like you are all dealing with plenty. I understand it all. Using a fire tablet, my other lenovo tablet has a loose mini usb slot so is very difficult to get it to charge. Accepted a new position yesterday, gave my notice yesterday too. Gave notice to my landlord. Looking for a mover and a place to live at the new location. Rentals are very hard to come by there. But, people are keeping an eye out for me. Scary,but last year I was in the same situation. Here I go again. Will be two hours from my kids one hour from mom. Sorry to have been gone, just very overwhelmed again. Stacey, fil ugh
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Gee Gladimhere you sure have had a lot to deal with. I sure hope things can settle down for you. Are you close to your kids (for support)?
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Hi heart. No my kids are about seven hours from here. Not much in the way of support. My friends here have been so much support for about four years now.
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So, are,you going to stay in the vicinity?... Good to hear you're ok though... isn't it amazing how,sting we can be when we have to?... I'm so glad you have good friends there... !
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Congratulations, Glad! A new adventure awaits! I hope you're very happy with new job and new location. It's a hassle to move but I really admire your unwillingness to settle for less than you want.
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Congratulations Glad!!! I am happy you will be closer to your kids and mother. You have had so much to deal with and your soon be former boss has not been supportive. Time to shake the dust off your shoes and say adious!!
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I will be so relieved to be out of here! Super haseven written me up for having my shoes untied! Control freak! He did not even say anything to me yesterday. So,ifanybody is considering investing in property in Colorado, I would be happy to rentfrom you! Just pm me and I will tell youwhere.
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Glad, Congratulations Sweetie, that is just Fanfreakintabulous! As alli said, we kinda knew you weren't all that happy with the old position, but you stuck it out like a Champ, and now you've got this New Opportunity, closer to home and family, but not too close and once the hard part is over, finishing up those last two weeks and the moving, you Will be flying high girl, Whoo- Hoo! New Year, New-Job, New- You

Upset, I can't believe your own brother so much as admitted that he was in on the jewelry heist thing! It is such a personal and emotional and heartsick feeling when anyone Steals your Jewelry, let alone Family, but what an Awful, Vindictive and Horrific thing to do to their own Granny! And that your brother knew, and is holding it over your head, so Spiteful! I hope you have called the police! And after everything you have done for this whole family? Wow! What in the World? I hope your Aunt and Uncle reccomend that she press charges, other than that, there's not a lot you can do but shake your head! The games Dysfunctional families play, huh? Sorry Sweetie!
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Congrats Glad!!!
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Congrats glad, now you really can be! And away from the bully.
Upset, I am sorry you keep getting sucked back in. If his answer was that pat and quick it was probably bro's idea. This may sound harsh, but can you just not respond? Each involvement shows them you are still entwined. After all of it is still she said, he said, they did. I just had to step away because I realized they were all liars in my own family. Just a thought. Hearsay report of theft by you from another state of elder stuff? Not a winning judge Judy moment since your mom would possibly be in on it.....unknowing of course.......yeah.
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Well got it started. Filled up a few boxes that I never unpacked all the way. Taped them shut. This afternoon take some boxes from upstairs down then i can get at the inflatable mat t ress and pack it up, may be used again for a bit until my things arrive. Need to go to buy packaging tape. Any one know how to get the grunge out of the inside of a gallon jug? It has been soaking for a year and will not come clean. Maybe pebbles inside, shake it up and voila no more grunge? An effer d ent tablet? Dishwasher soap? Better check youtube.
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Yay!! Glad, did you buy packing boxes or did you use just regular boxes. I am thinking of packing up glassware, knick knacks I'm not using. Get a head start on moving. Lol!!!
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I even saved the boxes I unpacked and the bubbles, everything but wardrobe boxes. I knew I would be moving again. Boxes are flAttened and under the twin bed.
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Stacey,

I really feel for you, for what you and your husband are having to go through with his dad! I understand he's a narc and all of that. It does sound as if the old man has had quite a bit of freedom, being inside your home, and not allowing someone to clean up his room. Isn't he living in your home?

I hope you can have a talk with your husband, sounds like some denial has been going on.

I hope he is feeling better after this, so you don't have to stress so much.

Hugs,
Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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(((((((stacey)))))) you have a declining senior on your hands, I think. I am glad yu can speak up about the realities. Hope that your hub is coming along side and accepting that his dad needs more care that you both can offer and hope you can arrange some respite. It sounds like fil is getting the picture. Transitions are hard times and I doubt it will happen by the book. Aaargh about the dog! Starting to feel better thx.

BES - good advice - speaking from experience

upset - Oh dear! They really are dreadful ad that bad bro admits to it and then blames you I hope the law can do something. I kinda agree with guest - really restrict contact with bad bro. I ended up not answering my sis's phone calls when they became abusive. I don't need it.

glad - Woo Hoo - well done - a position much nearer your kids and out from under your crazy super and back in your home state. Prayers for a good rental. You are getting into packing already!!! Way to go. Makes me realize that after all the dealing with other's stuff here, I will eventually be packing up my own things . Don't want to think about that right now!!!

guest - you have a point - it may be a lot of smoke with everyone involved just to "get" upset back.

sharyn - why not? Might as well get a head start.

margeaux - what you say makes sense. Of course a narc does not necessarily go along with what makes sense.
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Trying - so glad you had a good time with your family. Who needs the downers!!! It is so much more enjoyable and simpler without the narcs, isn't it?

east - I am glad your mum was OK when you bro was away. I doesn't sound like she will move easily, but the time may come when she has to. Your mum will fill all the space in your head of you let her. BTDT. I finally wanted to think about other things and life was more pleasant.

ali - hope things are working out as you plan.

jessie, heart, cm, susan, chris - thinking of you all

If I missed anyone,totally unintentional. My head is still a bit fuzzy.

Had a couple of mild bugs, not bad but they trigger the CFS/FM. It is not that bad either, but I have needed a lot of sleep and don't have any zip. This too will pass. I have made mental lists of what I want to do, when I have the energy.

I did get down to the service center and pick up my car and do a little shopping. I want to try few sharp stops in an empty parking parking lot to see how the car behaves. It felt good on the way home. I have been back and forth re the car so often, the service center shuttle driver and I are exchanging recipes and kitchen tips. ;p

Got lucky shopping and found a warm dressing gown at a good price and some bootee type slippers that keep your ankles warm. Last night I actually was too hot wearing the robe and slippers. That's a first and very welcome.

All in all, life could be worse. I have plans for the new year if my energy cooperates. My youngest grandson challenged me to complete Sonic 6. I used to be very good at Sonic (about 20+ years ago) and my youngest boasted about me to his friends at school. G'son has an Xbox1 and I do not intend to buy one, but, apparently, can get a hand held control to use on the computer to practice. Wish me luck.

When I have more energy and weather permitting I will head south probably with dd. To replace an item I lost in the flood, I bought a vintage folding rocker which I loved to sit in close to the fireplace. Middle son will pick it up middle of Jan. The guy selling it is downsizing his grandpa's (aged 96) stuff We chatted a bit about it. We used to live a few streets from where he is. Small world.

I boiled up a ham and that is my contribution to tonight's revelry. The house smells good!

Have a Happy New Year everyone! Hope 2017 is better than 2016.


Happy New Year Everyiner
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Fighting temptation to really try to get L's daughter to understand. She just e-mailed the invite to his memorial, two days after my last day on this job. Yes, I have too much to do, but that aside..........
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This last week I attended an old girl friend's from my past, father's memorial service.
I hadn't seen her in quite some time, only in phone contact very minimally.

She's going through a divorce at the moment. It was rather weird, because she already had a new boyfriend in tow at the funeral. Thought that was strange.
WOW!! I couldn't believe it! After the service there was a reception at a restaurant.
It didn't even really seem like a funeral, more like a party. There was quite a bit of drinking going on, including my friend.

She is the kind of person who loves to bring up things from our past, knew her in high school and college. She basically doesn't know when to stop some of the information she shares, even started to talk about her ex husband, during that era in front of this boyfriend. IDK, I often wonder about people who are so willing to talk about their exe's in front of a new partner. I feel that is very, very rude.
Well the thing that really bugged me, as she continued having her beers was that she even started trying to ask me about a relationship from my last life, so long ago, which didn't turn out good. Her name is Debbie.......and I ended up nicknaming her Debbie the dredger. Honestly, that's what it felt like, as I tried my best to skirt her nosey questions and statements.

I'm so glad that I made the decision to not take my husband with me to this.
He doesn't know her, nor the deceased.

Much Love & Light! Margeaux
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And tell her off too!
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Oh, Margeaux....I really don't like people like that. I'm sorry you had to go through that. At least now you know that if there's another invite in the future that you might want to find a way to decline.
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Just want to wish all of you a (better) Happy and Healthy 2017.
What would we do without each other here?
All the very Best....
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Thanks Heart! You too.

Glad - wishing you a great new beginning with this move

Margeaux - How awkward you must have felt. People are so baffling sometimes.

Golden - Thank you and best of luck with Sonic!! It's kind of adorable that you can rock the video games!
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Heart, I agree. I wasn't sure I'd stay around on the forum after mom's passing in July, because sometimes it's so hard to see the struggles that others are going through, or read of someone's parent or loved one passing. But I came back because even though there are occasionally petty arguments, we're like family here, and the friendship and companionship - even if it's only online - is very comforting and helpful.
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SusanA43. I also find this forum as a comfort. I don't get out much and when I do see people I know they just don't understand what life is like at home because they have never had to experience any of it. I see this pattern this year and it's not like my cell phone is out of order, Here I have gone through Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years is here and I have not heard from one person I know to wish me anything or even say hello. But you know what,, I am going to remember this because there will be a time when they will be going through a tough time in their lives and this gal won't remember they exist either. I just can't wait to see who is going to be the first ones to say something to me when Dad passes away. All I have to say to any of them is " Where were you when I was going through all of this alone and now you wanna be my best friend" Nope it ain't gonna fly!
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