The Caregiver & Dysfunctional Families: How are you doing?

Thank you all for the condolences regarding my sis. It has been painful as I still can eat much since my stomach takes my stress and the same with my niece. My heart aches for her because she is having to jump thru legal hoops. My sis had a dpoa and exeutorship written in California. Unfortunately it is not accepted in the state of Kentucky. My sisters “estate” is smalll. It includes her home and 401k. It will have to go thru probate before my niece can have access to her mom’s accounts to pay off any outstanding medical bills. It can be up to 3 months. This is not bad as people with large estates can be a year or longer. My niece is the only heir.

My sis passed in the early evening of December 28th. My daughter brought her boys over on the 29th so she could go to work. She brought me flowers and gave me a hug. My daughter was not feeling herself for a couple days. On December 30th Saturday she a sore throat and a fever. She home tested for Covid it was positive. She has been out of work all week but is feeling much better now. Her hubs and boys have it now. It’s been a week since I had contact with her so far I’m good. I think I may be in the clear of having contracted it from her. My hubs is also fine.

happy new year everyone! Yoda I will follow up on your situation.

send my best and may God bless everyone in 2024!

Yods this is very interesting considering what you have been dx with in the past. I send my prayers that the process brings answers to your questions.

Oh my gosh, Yoda. That’s interesting.

I’m glad you are doing further testing to see what’s going on.

Have missed reading your posts. Keep us updated. Take care.

Thanks for the positive responses. At the end of this month, I will have a test for Narcolepsy, which was wrongly diagnosed as bipolar depression, which led to me being put on antipsychotics, which are used for bipolar depression, with terrible side effects that have changed my life forever. I am getting a brain scan this month because of my balance problems.

Good to her from you Yoda.

So sorry for your loss Sharyn.

I'm reading a really good book on boundaries. It's called Lifeskills for Adult Children. Excellent step by step instructions and realistic scenarios.

Happy New Year Yoda!

Getting the Whoops Cat on some people/posts.

See y'all later.
Very very busy here today.

Hi Yoda! Happiest of years to you!

Happy New Year Yoda! Long time, no hear. Hope you are well.

Happy New Year, Yoda!

Just stopping by to wish everyone a happy or a happier new year!

Sharyn my deepest condolences. So sorry for your loss.

Sharyn,

So happy that you are able to find comfort in scriptures that are meaningful to you.

It’s difficult to lose siblings. Our families reduce in size as we age. Even though we don’t want to see them suffering anymore, we still miss them in our lives.

Thinking of you and sending hugs your way.

Sharyn, May The Lord give you and your family grieving mercies and comfort during this time.

Philippians 4:7 brings me comfort right now.

thank you everyone. I am so proud of my niece because she did not feel she could handle bringing her mama back to her home. She did it and right now it is overwhelming to her but I know in coming months she will be comforted that she did. I am so happy my sis was surrounded by her family inKentucky. I am very grateful for the happy memories I made with my sis while in Kentucky. We had great laughs as she was getting better. Thank you again.

Sharyn, thinking of you.
Thinking that now peace can start.

Sharyn, so sorry. God Bless.

Dear Sharyn, deep condolences.

My deepest condolences.

I'm so sorry, Sharyn.

((((((Hugs))))) Sharyn. Deepest condolences on the loss of your sis. Such a difficult time of year for this to happen. Please take care of yourself.

So sorry for your loss Sharyn . ((((Hugs)))

So sorry for the loss of your sister, Sharyn. It’s hard to lose someone any time of year but I think it’s harder during the holidays.

Wishing you peace during this difficult time. Hugs 🫂 !

My sis passed away with her family by her side late this afternoon.

(((((Sharyn)))))... thinking of you today. I'm so sorry. 💔

Ali,

Good for you! You’re wise to know that you have no control over how others feel.

It’s liberating to let things go rather than trying to convince others that their way of thinking isn’t the best.

Thank you everyone. It’s has been a hard journey. I had many great laughs with my sis while in Kentucky that I will cherish. My sis is being brought to her home this evening with hospice care. I made arrangements with my great nephews wife to pick up a sandwich platter that I prepaid to bring to my sisters house for the family. My other great nephew flew in from Africa and my nieces daughter will be there from Florida.

Arrangements had been made before our mother passed in 2016 for my sis to be cremated and her ashes placed with our parents in California. We will have a graveside service in late spring 2024

Ali, I totally understand you keeping the peace with family. God bless you for doing that. It is hard but we do have to realize it’s not on us but on the dysfunctional members that have not evolved.

thank You all again and sending my heartfelt hugs and prayers for everyone.

Well my Christmas was sort of as expected.

I stayed quiet most of the evening. But then we got into a big discussion about my schizophrenic brother and the hell the family went through over the years. The biggest incident that occurred during my childhood was one time he attacked my mom. I was the one that broke that up because I had been up watching and waiting like I did most nights during that period. My narc sister has somehow rewritten that night. I called her on it and that was my mistake. Should have kept my mouth shut like Ali suggested. Narc sis and I usually keep a distance between us and that started the ball rolling.

Another thing that happened that irked me is when we were leaving narc sis was fawning all over my hubs telling him how handsome he looked and rubbing his shoulders. She has done this all my life with different guys I dated etc. Small thing it would seem but I think she does it to bug me. Plus if I ever even walked into a room with her and one of her boyfriends she would say "WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN HERE!" So consider me irked.

Hubs has been beaming since then having had his ego stroked. Good for him I guess.

Yeah, Christmas...................Sigh

Wow Ali. I get staying silent in front of the turkeys* in order to see the ones you DO want to see, especially if just once or twice a year.

*wasps, boars, snakes, crocs or whatever describes them best

It seems they have not developed human manners.