Thank you for your support, my sweet mom has passed.

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A few days ago on the thread "The One Thing That Bothers You The Most About Caregiving" I wrote that this past Thursday was a fabulous day for Mom after months of bad/mediocre days with the bad outnumbering the mediocre. She ate hearty and us three girls and Mom played the card game Rummy and laughed a lot. Mom even came in second place (with Sister 1's help). At 8 p.m., we put her to bed. From Thursday evening until this Sunday morning, she'd been solid in bed practically asleep. Nothing to eat and about total of 1/2 cup of fluid. We gave her Ativan to calm jerking so bad she was sweating and was a hazard to herself, almost like constant seizing. She groaned and grimaced in pain so was put on morphine too. After an agonizing night--for us girls--Mom passed around 5:30 a.m. She's no longer in pain and ravaged by dementia. I've read that the dying often have a terrific day then dies a few days later. I thought of that on Thursday as I watched Mom laugh and play cards. The people on this forum aren't just caregivers for their charges, be they parent or spouse, but also to each of us who undertake a most difficult task. Thank you all who have given support and guidance to me or influenced me so much. If you ever have a bad day and wonder if you make a positive difference in the world, look in the mirror and say: "Yes. Yes, I do."

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Hi Mountain Moose,

Sending my heartfelt sorrow to you and yours, but also happiness for that special day you all had with your mom. It's what I was looking to strive for. Though she's still here, I am learning to relax that it's a toss up with the narcissistic moms.

Nice to have such a blessing.
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Thank you so much for all your support and sweet comments. You all mean a lot to me. {hugs} You're all lifesavers.
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I'm sorry to hear that your mom has passed.
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MM,
I'm sorry on the loss of your mom. So glad you had a great day with her. Have that day as your memory of her. She's at peace and you brightened her last days.
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Dear MountainMoose, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. Glad you had a wonderful day with your mom.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Dearest MountainMoose: I am so, so very sorry for the loss of your sweet mom and am sending you deepest condolences. Yes, often the elder gives "one last hurrah," if you will...so to speak. I am glad that you and your sisters had that memorable time with your mother that you can hold on to forever! And you're welcome for the support for we all need it.
For my late mother, her eyes were closed and no communication from her EXCEPT ONE SOLITARY TEAR THAT ROLLED DOWN HER SWEET CHECK.
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I am so sorry for your loss. The good memories of your Mom will continue to come back to you. Please take care of yourself too at this time.
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So sorry for your loss, but happy that you all got to have a wonderful memory to help you through until the end. I know it was difficult, as I’ve been there before. However, I can see that you, like many of us here, are happy and relieved that your mom is no longer suffering.
Prayers for a peaceful heart as you wade through what needs to be done and for grief.
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MountainMoose, I'm sorry for your loss. My mother also had a really good day - above and beyond her normal - and passed away the very next morning. She was in high spirits all day, enjoyed a cookout held on the patio at the nursing home complete with a live local band, and chatted with the staff late into the evening. The next morning she got up for breakfast and simply collapsed.

I'm so glad your mom had a good day before leaving you. It makes it a little easier to bear their passing, knowing that they had one really good day.
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Dear MountainMouse,

My deepest sympathies and condolences. I'm sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family during this sad time. Sending hugs.
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