3 years of it cost me my job. I chose to care for her rather than go back to my city hall job. Alzheimer's, osteoporosis, transient ischemic attack, vertigo, hip surgery, hearing loss, memory lapses, arthritis, etc. All of it gone for good. She's finally at in her real home and free from her wilted body. She's 81 years old. I will continue reading and posting my two cents worth now and then on this website. One day it will be my turn. I pray to God to spare me and my daughter the long-drawn battle of elderly care that can cost a daughter's career and freedom to come to a full stop and friends running away. My own caregiving story were almost 2 decades long. With the last 10 years full of hospital visits, emergencies, mobility issues, vacations cancelled, job promotion withheld, lost income, even finding time for romance and dating is simply impossible. I hope one day God will bless me with a good man as my husband. I'm a single parent with one daughter and earning a living, ensuring food on the table and caregiving occupied much of my waking hours. I hope now with more free time, I can first of all find my own self. I felt like I've lost it and I'm sometimes wondering how to occupy my time now that caregiving is deleted from my daily chores. :) LOL I thank you all for your lovely messages, your prayers and support. Thank you AgingCare members! Thank you for the nasty messages even if they were hurting but it gave me a view from the other side of the fence. There are those who berated me for asking for ways on how to shorten my mom. Years ago, I asked this question. I was just at my wit's end and need to vent my frustrations and anger. Of course, looking back at it now, I didn't actually have the courage to do it. I still miss my mom. There are moments I just find myself crying. But I cry more for the happiness I feel now, also the relief I am slowly enjoying, but most of all knowing she's in the best place she can be. As they say, no more pain. No more miseries. I love you mom with all my heart! Run freely and happily! Thank you each and everyone of you here!