So not sure there are a lot of folks in my situation. My mom is widowed for 21 years now - she just turned 91 I am not even 54 and my husband 57. I am an only child. We do pretty much everything for her so she can stay in her home, clothes, food, repairs, doctors appt, etc. my mom does not appreciate what we do for her and continues to be reckless with herself and car which always then involves us to pick up pieces. Lately my mom is always picking fights and saying horrible things to us that you wouldn't wNt to repeat. I am about done - we just has a daughter get married and mom came (I bought everything for her do she would look nice) but wanted to dance get up and around without a cane and complain - she pretty much ruined the experience for me. Not sure I could forgive what she said to me and don't know what to do. She's been the third person in my marriage for 33 years and hubby is sick of it to! I tired of all the ups and downs with her. Both of our children are married now with good jobs (no grandkids yet) but we have no life because if her and she doesn't even recognize it. When she was my age she didn't have to take care of parents, etc. she has 4 sisters to help with everything, even my wedding. Does anyone have advice for this very stressed only child. I feel like she is making me sick with stomach pains, etc lack of sleep because of her problems. Thank you.