You try to do the right thing. Take care of an elderly parent. You supplement their income, make sure their needs are met, and put your life on hold to provide elderly care. You try to keep them in their homes and not commit them to a nursing home.Then when they pass away the state comes in to take the only thing they ever owned of value and worked a life time to acquire, THE FAMILY HOME. My mother passed away and now my heart is broken all over again.