So hard to clean an elder's bathroom

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I don't like cleaning my mother's bathroom. I don't really like doing housework to start with, but I know it is a necessary evil. My mother's bathroom is absolutely the worst. First, there is a big walk in shower that gets red and black mildew that has to be tackled. Then there's the shower chair that grows mildew on all the joint. By the time I clean the shower, I am worn out. But it is time to move on to the toilet.

The toilet has a safety frame with feet touching the floor and an elevated vinyl seat. Many times she doesn't quite make it to the toilet, so pees all over it. To clean the toilet, I have to take off the safety frame (peeeuuuu) and squirt the cleaner into the bowl. I let it set while I clean the sink -- no problem usually. Then I have to clean the toilet and clean all the yuck off the safety frame seat and bucket. Yuck yuck yuck.

Now it that isn't enough, there is the garbage can that she puts used potty tissue in. That can gag me, but it has to be done. Finally, there is the mopping of the floor with vinegar water. All done... Then I hear her moving down the hall to the bathroom and want to cry. Elders' bathrooms are just too hard to keep clean.

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We're missing you Jessie, and just hoping that everything is ok and maybe you'll come back after a break. (((hugs)))
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Miss you, JB!
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Hey, Jessie, Everyone is missing you. How are you doing? Your mom? Is everything okay? Take care! (Hugs)!!
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Maybe you could retrofit the bathroom like a carwash with a big floor drain, huge scrubby brush and pressure washer. Just put on your hazmat suit, step in, and blast away. Two minutes later, all clean. Turn on the fan and open the window to dry. :-)

OK, maybe that is not an option. Better living through chemistry. I find that concentrated peroxide (Oxyclean type stuff) works better than plain bleach and is not as risky to my skin and lungs. Liquid dishwasher soap works best on mold and grout. I get mine at Costco. Clorox makes a great product for urine smell and stain, sometimes you can find it in the pet aisle if not the cleaning aisle of the grocery store. Also, spraying everything down then waiting 5-10 min helps tremendously.

The reason some places smell better is that both the housekeeping staff is good at what they do and management has wisely chosen to pay for plenty of the right chemicals, which can be expensive.
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I just glove up and spray away with the strongest spray bleach cleaner and get down and dirty with it. Luckily we don't have grab bars and such (mother's place does, and her bathroom is a gross nightmare--shudder) but I am always amazed at how disgusting one small bathroom can get in such a short time. Hubby also has explosive diarrhea probably 5 days a week due to his Metformin. So---maybe 20 episodes to clean up after? And no, he has never, not once, never cleaned up after himself.

I replace the toilet seat about once a year, all the scrubbing I have to do pretty much ruins them.

Oh, and OPEN THE WINDOWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For your safety. That bleach is amazing, of course, but will knock you out.

If I clean Mother's- I open the windows, put the shower chair in the shower, spray it all with a strong cleaner and shut the shower. Take out the wet depends, either spray the garbage can or put a layer of kitty litter in with the new bag. Spray down everything and wipe and scrub. End up with spraying the shower and chair down (I don't scrub her shower, it's beyond my abilities to get the limescale off at this point). I do NOT close the window for hours, if I can get away with it.

This is a tiny, tiny bathroom. It still takes an hour.

Sadly, all of mother's clothing and belongings now smell like sick, old urine. Carpet, everything. I will take absolutely nothing if she dies, as the smell makes me so sick, and is just too reminiscent of cleaning for someone who hates me for doing so.

I don't know why some "old folks" places stink to high heaven and some places (like both of my grandmother's homes) smelled pleasantly fresh and clean. I guess mother was a slipshod housekeeper in the best of times.

Bathrooms are just the worst to clean...after that, birdcages. Ugh.
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I have changed from cleaning with bleach to a degreaser. Still have my Ly*ol. I am trying sp*c and sp*n this week for mopping. May switch to swi**er. I also purchased one of those automatic air fresheners and placed it under the air conditioner. The complaining has gone way down. I still use Febr**ze on sofas at times. No replacement yet.

I always disliked those raised toilet seats they look like trouble. When the medical folding potty finally broke, I purchased regular toilet seats. That has helped a lot.

I'm too wimpy for private part cleaning matters. Reason I left working in nursing home. When it is shower time, mom says I will bathe myself. I tell her yes you will but first let me get you all setup. Then I set nearby in case she calls for me or I hear something. My stomach is just weak.

When that time comes, I will have to re-evaluate things. But right now they can still shower and handle toilet duty by themselves.

Bless You JoAnn29
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Jessie, I fully understand where ur coming from. My Mom had explosive diarrhea. I had to clean up the bathroom before I could give her shower. It took me 3 hours to clean because she walked into her sitting room. We had to get rid of the area carpet. I sat and cried as I cleaned up. The next time she had the problem was in the AL. At 65 I am just not physically able to handle her. She is now in a NH and doing well. Her memory is gone. I think she recognizes but really doesn't know the relationship. I still have to deal with the house, which I will lose and getting my disabled nephew placed somewhere. Then hopefully my husband and I can enjoy our retirement.
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Please be aware that when people have Dementia they can no longer appreciate what u do for them. I think the reasoning power is the first thing to go.
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My mother's favorite saying when it comes to cleaning the bathroom and kitchen is "They don't need it." Of course, they don't, but that is because I keep them clean. Answry, your mother sounds like mine. Instead of saying thanks for cleaning, there are talks of the smells. I don't use anything really smelly anymore, since she complained about the smell of bleach all over the house.
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I just reloaded my arsenal today. Face mask and all. I loathe this part of caregiving. I am like a mad scientist. Mom says here you go coming through the door blazing with those air fresheners and chemicals. I can’t stand a smelly home.

I’m smiling at this post and feel ya.
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