I can't be anymore clear with my only sibling about how I need help. My mom lives with me, husband and step-son. I'm 34 and have been doing this since my mid-20's. I chose to be the sole care taker, I get that I chose that, and with that comes responsibility. But what I don't get is that I've cried to my older sister, have asked her in vulnerable times, have asked her in "normal" times, have emailed her, have talked to her, and I still can't get her to commit to 2 hours a week. This last run at it, she finally committed to Sundays, and only showed up 2 out of 4 before she said Sundays were no longer good. I'm now waiting patiently for her to possibly come up with a new date or time....She even cancelled on me so she could "go out for St Patrick's Day!" How hurtful is it for someone to tell a caregiver they can't help because they have decided to go out and do something fun !!! She has no money to financially contribute to the help I already pay for myself .... What else can I say to her that will kick her into gear? Is it too late? DO people change? Should I just save myself the upset and look to other sources at this point?