I just can't understand how siblings can just totally wash their hand of their parent. I have total care of my 89 year old mother with dementia. My husband and I still work full time and I'm 61. We take Mom to an adult day care while we work during the day. When we need a break we have to set up respite care somewhere. We do not get offers for help to doctors appointments or help with researching any assistance that might be out there from the family. Both my brother and sister live only about 1 hour away and are retired, but I'm told by both of them they are too busy with their families to help. Hey I have 3 sons and one grandson, but my time is precious with them because I'm care for Mom. I was told by both of them to just put Mom in a Nursing home - but you just don't put someone in Nursing home. She has no money, except what her Social Security brings in. My husband and I am exhausted, but I care about my Mom too much to just shove her off somewhere. My sister told me to drop her off at an Emergency room and say she's a danger to herself, then they would place her somewhere. I just don't get it. Any suggestions..................tired and confused.