My mother is 89 years old and she lived with me for a year. Now she is in a care home. I was unable to care for her and work too. I go to see her 5 times a week. And take her out often. But she wants to live with me. It makes me feel so bad. I am the youngest of 5 kids. They never come to see her. And only call her once a mth if that. 10 years ago my mother made my brother POA and he pays her bills and looks after her property and finance afairs. He has no problem with that and dose it very well. But he can not take the time to see her.
Dealing with my mother alone is so hard. She often ask why her other kids do not come and I just do not know what to say. Why is it always one child that holds the bag?? My mother was 45 years old when I was born. And she has been sick most of my life. I have been the only care giver for her. I love the fact that I have been able to be with her. But I am not able to have a life of my own. It is just work and caring for her. I know one day I will wish for those times again. And I will miss her. So I keep telling myself that. But why is it that one mother can raise 5 kids and 5 kids can not care for one mother??