I don't earn enough to pay for home-health, so I'm doing it myself (to the detriment of my marriage). Cook (she's diabetic and a picky, spoilt eater); clean, bathe, laundry, chauffer, and watch FOX or play cards when she's awake. I'm losing my grip and she crys when things don't suit her! I'm a 48 year old man who's had 5 open heart surgeries. I am ashamed to admit it, but if I could administer the banked money she hasn't squandered, this would be doable. I just know she'll accuse me of tending to her for her "money" HA! and the absent, brother would blow it on himself. I have to worry about every bite I put in my mouth because she thinks I'm being extravagant with her monthly SS.