So all the reading I've done here and elsewhere and a few sessions with a therapist led me to set some boundaries with my PD dad. He has made some suggestions about my husband and I purchasing various insurance for our future. They are valid suggestions, but I'm middle aged with kids of my own and would like to feel like an adult who can make my own decisions. This was never a valued quality in my growing up years: I wasn't encouraged to think for myself or deviate from the party line. The boundaries I set were not met with open arms and he said he was offended and now seems to be avoiding me. I know this is what I have to do for my own well being, but still feel like the difficult daughter (a few years ago in another incident, he told me I "have a manner I need to address" namely, disagreeing and setting boundaries. HELP!