I support my spouse who has dementia in A.L., take him to doctor appointments; give him spending money each week; I am P.O.A., pay all the bills, see him several times a week. Sibling & my husband with dementia are always lying to me, sneaking around behind my back, talking to attys., looking for apts for independent living. My husband cannot live on his own, cannot administer his meds, cannot drive. He insists he can do all of these things. My husband wants his brother to be P.O.A. Is this possible since everything is in both of our names. There is no legitimate reason to revoke P.O.A., other than my husband says I'm too restrictive. They are lying.......told their atty that he has accepted the fact he can't drive and his brother admits he can't drive (that is a lie). After telling their atty that, he said he needs $$$ to buy a car and a months rent. My husband has been heard on the phone saying, "I'll call you as soon as she leaves". They've discussed guardianship & conservatorship....(sibling wants to get his hands on our $$$). Is it possible for a sibling to get guardianship of the brother who is married, in A.L. and wife meets all his needs? My atty. has told me that it's possible, but unlikely. He believes the only way they could do this would be if I was neglecting or abusing him,which I am not and never have.
My husband contacting two attys. on his own to get out of AL and revoke the P.O.A.. This time his sibling is assisting him (not financially) with the most recent atty, I would say, giving him false hope.
Has anyone ever been involved in or known anyone who has been involved in a mess like this?