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Update on mom...still hanging in there. She has exceded the 5 days from the nurse of last Wednesday. It's been a full week now since mom quit eating and almost a week tomorrow since no more fluids. She has dwindled before my eyes...so so hard to watch. She is rattling...but snoring at the same time. She is now unresponsive but still warm in her hands and feet. I look at her hands even though they are starting to change to a purplish grey..they still have full blood veins which shows that she has hydration still. Her respite of 5 days will be over on Wednesday. I really hope she won't last that long. The nurse thinks maybe 24 hours tops. I pray that the end is sooner. I can't take it much more...it's so excruciating. And all my family members far away are agonizing over the waiting. She will be my little energizer bunny till the end. Thank you all for your loving thoughts, kind words, and continued prayers. I truly appreciate all of you. God Bless. Debbie
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Keeping you and your mom in my prayers msdaizy. You too, Elaine. (((((hugs to you both )))))
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Elaine I thought about you today. I remembered it was your mom's funeral and I am so glad you don't have any regrets. I know too...I feel the same. Even though at times I felt stressed and exhausted and frustrated. It was the right thing for her. And I know she appreciated me when we got past those moments of frustration. The sweet mom I knew came back to me in the end. Today as I sit in the room with her I pray and whispered in her ear that she was the best mom I could ever have and to go when she needs to go...we will be okay. She heard me she whimpered a little. Then I told her I loved her. I know she wanted to say it back to me..her mouth was moving but she had no voice. "I said I know mom."
I'm ready ..the nurse says it will be in the next couple of days. It's been 7 days with out food or water. And I am ready.
This has been the best thing I have ever done. Funny thing is... I remember saying not too long ago...that it was the hardest thing I have ever done. Both are true. But no regrets either, my friend...no regrets. ((Hugs)) back to you.
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Msdaizy: Today was mom's funeral, and to see the outpouring of love for her was so comforting. Whatever I may have gone through as her caregiver was all worth it. The only regrets I have are sometimes feeling frusterated because my sister never pitched in. But, as I sat there and looked at my 6 nieces and nephews and their 6 spouses, and saw my sisters 9 grandchildren (who just passed me by because none of them knew me....they never came to see mom), I thought what a sad thing.....for them, not mom! They were the ones who missed out on having the most wonderful, funny, witty grandmother and greatgrandmother. Then, I glanced at my daughter, who was so close to my mom, and my 3 great grandchildren along with my son in law. They were the winners. The love and memories they have will last a life time. They were the ones who brought the greatest sense of pleasure. She was so proud of them, and as she waited to fall asleep her very last day, I told her how very proud I was of her. She will be forever in my heart and mind. I know I'll have to keep up with this site, because I know I will find strength and encouragement from all of you who are going through or have gone through the very same thing. Hang in the Mzdaizy. I can say I know exactly what you are going through. When your mom does fall asleep, I can assure you, you will feel as I do: No Regrets! and so proud of your mom, who put up a fight and won...she won your love forever. Hugs, Elaine
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God be with your mother and you, msdaizy. I believe you'll see your mother again some day and she will have a body that doesn't hurt and a mind that never forgets. You were so lucky to have each other here. {{{{You are a wonderful daughter.}}}}
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((((((((hugs)))))))) and prayers for a peaceful passing and for peace, and comfort for the family.. That is what we told our son - If you need to go, it is OK. He went the next day.
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Yes...Nanieine it seems our Marys will be seeing each other soon. It's been a very tough week and but i'm okay. Mom is in Respite at the Hospice House, which I can only believe was Gods plan all along because it was scheduled over a month ago. The nurses are so loving and caring...they jump at every wimper or scrunched brow. She has been so peaceful. She wakes up a little and grabbed my hand tonight as I kissed her cheek and I told her to give my dad a kiss for me in heaven. She saw me crying a little and tried to say something out of concern, but her throat is so dry. I smiled and said.."Mom it's okay..I'll be okay..and you go when you need to go." I saw how she relaxed and went back to sleep. I think it will be soon. And I am ready. I have so much peace in my heart now. Blessings to all of you.
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My heart goes out to you. As you know my mom passed away January 1st. Her funeral is this Sunday. I know it is going to be very hard for me because I miss her so much. May your "Mary" soon enjoy the peace mine has. Stay strong. I know exactly what you are going through.
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Oh my, this is so sad and sweet. Blessings to you, msdaizy and your Mom. May she find peace and joy and happiness with her passed loved ones and may you find peace and joy and happiness with your loved ones here on Earth. Keeping you both in my prayers.
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What an incredible Lady you are! God Bless you and your Mom. May the Lord, God the Father, and the Holy Spirit Comfort you and your Mom. I ask this in Jesus's name. Amen.
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Thank you all..it's so comforting knowing these are all part of the process. I am so glad I didn't give up on her. My mom has been so peacefully sleeping and I am sure she is having all sorts or visions because she smiles a lot. I'm sure there are many up in heaven with open arms ready to receive her. I feel blessed already.
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My dad had the same type of "visions". 4 days before he died, he was trying to get up. When I asked where he was going, he said Jess (his friend who had died several years ago) said they have to get in line, they have to be fourth in line. I told him since it was hard for him to stand, I would wait in line for him until they got to the front. He also kept saying he needed to go home. I would try to reorient him and tell him that we were home but he kept saying no this is not the home, I need to get going. Shortly before he lost consciousness the day he died, he started saying "mom, mom, mom". So I asked if he could see his mom and he said she was about 5 feet away. I asked him if anyone else was with her and he said not right now. I asked if she had a smile on her face and told him she was probably really glad to see him again after all these years, that he should go give her a hug. It really was an amazing experience. Hospice told me that it was not at all unusual and called his agitation "terminal agitation" - knowing he had somewhere to go but didn't know where or how to prepare for it. He had had hallucinations at other times when his oxygen levels would get low but this was very different because it was always with people who had already passed and were very important in his life. Good luck ~ Kuli
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Prayers for peace and comfort for both you and your Mom.

A friend's husband kept trying to pack because he saw his parents at the door waiting for him. They had passed several years ago and he talked to them nightly the last couple of weeks. He said his Mama was singing lullabies to him to help him rest at night. She said it was comforting because her husband was peaceful and eager to go with his parents.

We'll be thinking about you.
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