The nurse came yesterday..put a foley cath in mom since she kept thinking she needs to potty. I was worried mom is so weak. She needs to rest so this will help with her being able to rest completely. The nurse came and assessed mom she says it will be just be a matter of days..one week.
Mom got up last night actually stood up for the first time in a month..said she needs to go. "I said where mom?" and she starts picking up the bedding as to take it with her. " they are waiting for me and I'm going with them" I tell her "mom, lets rest first." She says to me..."are you coming too?" I said "sure, mom but first we rest, they will come back in the morning."
I guess the nurse said this is common too..they will have a surge of energy. I pray for peace. I hope this is over soon.
A friend's husband kept trying to pack because he saw his parents at the door waiting for him. They had passed several years ago and he talked to them nightly the last couple of weeks. He said his Mama was singing lullabies to him to help him rest at night. She said it was comforting because her husband was peaceful and eager to go with his parents.
We'll be thinking about you.
I'm ready ..the nurse says it will be in the next couple of days. It's been 7 days with out food or water. And I am ready.
This has been the best thing I have ever done. Funny thing is... I remember saying not too long ago...that it was the hardest thing I have ever done. Both are true. But no regrets either, my friend...no regrets. ((Hugs)) back to you.
im sorry for this torture at the end of this life-rips your insides, u both r lucky to have had eachother-
i cry and pray for u-
and send u support and love-
k
My mom died last Thursday. She went without food for 10 days and without water for over 5 days. She just kept on and kept on. Like your mom, she went from here (home) where I was primary caretaker, through a huge shitstorm of a crisis, switched hospice providers, was admitted 2 days before Christmas to a hospice house for respite for me and to get her more comfortable (long story)...and then to a rehab center to finish out her life. I gave all I could for as long as I could and then one day I woke up and said "I can't do this anymore. I'm done".
After that, angels took over. The Hospice house was like a peaceful heaven for her and for me. They gave her a quilt for xmas and I got a stuffed Santa. They fed me a wonderful Christmas dinner. And in return, I weeded their courtyard. My mom left there and transferred to a rehab center she had been at over the summer, and they welcomed her back as if she was everyone's "nana". They absolutely loved on her, and carried out hospice's orders to the Tee, each and every hour. I do believe my mom knew she was there, knew her favorite CA when he crawled into her bed and held her while crying for her -- she opened her eyes and said "Hi Ed!" and that was the last sensible thing she said. I think she decided she could leave when she realized that she was not going home again. I think she was greatly distressed by the strain the caregiving was putting on me and was actually content to be comfortable, with friends and that she could let go.
She passed quietly Thursday morning.
I returned to work today. I told my coworkers again and again that I know their prayers worked -- because angels came to me again and again and helped me and my mom out.
Ironically, or not, 3 people in my department at work lost their mom's over the holidays. All three of us were the primary caretakers. All of us left work on leave when things got bad. All of us watched our mothers peacefully leave the world under the watchful eyes of hospice nurses.
Your mom wil be joining these three fine ladies soon.
It will be a peaceful sadness. That's what they called it at the Hospice House. I like that. Peace be upon you, peace be to your family, and peace to your beautiful mother.
God bless you.
I wish I could reach through this computer and just hold your hand.
Thanks for all the prayers this week. It was a tough thing to endure but my sisters and I were there with her the whole time. God bless you all.