My husband is 15 years older than me and is now entering a stage where he seems to be slowly going downhill. In addition, he also seems to be suffering from depression. This started after bypass surgery 5 years ago. After the surgery, he has pretty much done nothing to help himself in terms of keeping up his physical therapy, etc. As a result, his mobility is getting worse and worse. The bad part is he won't admit to his physical decline. He has pretty much stopped home maintenance and doing anything else around the house. That's ok if he can't do it BUT he refuses to hire help! So guess who gets to do all of this work...me. I've had to hire people to get stuff done but this always causes a battle as he says he will do it...but never does. Well, some things can't wait forever, so I've had to take on all home maintenance which I don't want to do. I recently retired and don't want to spend my retirement years taking care of a large house AND yard work. (we need to downsize but he refuses to move). I don't know what to do. I've thought about going ahead and buying my own condo and moving out and leave him here. But I know he would not take care of the house and it would fall into disrepair. I also think he is very depressed and have talked to him about that...but again he refuses to admit it. (I've also talked with his Cardio Dr's) but you can't make a person take antidepressants. I think he would be happier and I certainly would be happier if he were in a better mood and be cooperative in helping me deal with things. How do you deal with a stubborn elderly person!!