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I am scared to post here. I think my sister is on here too. Some of the comments that have been made seem like her. She is really very much internet savvy. So I guess I will read what you post and positively comment there. Anyway there is a new problem with sister but I can't post apparently. If I say anything then I will get a vile email from her. And I mean vile. It just upsets me so much that I shake and shake after these vile emails. My counselor said just preview her email first then if I don't want to read it, delete it. I would really like your opinion on this train wreck of a situation.

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Correction- not "attack" but words that hurts you.
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Brandy, Sharyn got it in a nutshell. Keep this name "as is" and just open a new one. In your profile - make your activities/post as PRIVATE. No one will be able to comment on your wall and they can only send you HUGS if they can find your name. As for your email, take sis name out of your address, and if you can find one of her emails to you, flag it as SPAM, or block or whatever. If you worry about your curiosity getting the better of you and open her email, then close your account and open a new one. As for me, I would just open a new one...and conveniently forget the password of the old one.

This site is a place for us to vent and let off steam from the frustrations of caregiving. When someone you know is against you, it absolutely makes a big difference. You can no longer type - free flowing like before. Because you will always worry about what they would say about your comments. When you open yourself up here, and expose such deep emotions that you would never ever display to siblings, this site makes you very vulnerable to attacks. Because,in this site, you let your guard down and your heart open. Brandy, this has happened to me. I KNOW what it's like to be hurt like that. I struggled for a while trying to post on AC in the thread discussions and I just couldn't. So, you do what you have to do. Take care!
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I agree with what others have advised. Change your name on here, do not use real names for siblings, parents, spouses, friends, ect. Then change your activity and posts to private so no one can follow you. Only you can see your wall. Don't give her power over you because it feeds her ego. There are so many posts on here that are similar and your sister may think many other posters are you. Her bad reaction only means what was said hit home and she didn't like it, so what is she going to do...verbally attack everyone? Change your email and only text her if possible so she can't find out your email. Absolutely block her. Good luck and Hugs to you!
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Why not just cut to the chase and block her? Most email programs give you the option to block a person if you do not wish to deal with them. Or at the very least, send her to your spam folder. You need to be able to ask questions and get support here without having the drama she keeps trying to send you. Care for yourself first before you can try to care for others dear. Hugs.
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Thank you for your advice. I really like this site. I will probably change my name here. Brandy
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Brandy - Until your sister or any other sibs are ready and willing to step up and live our lives, who really cares if they are upset by something posted here? Change your name if it bothers you or you feel you have to hold back. Otherwise, too bad that a sib doesn't like to hear the truth! Hang in there ~ Kuli
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Have you tried having a family meeting with you sister and a mediator involved? It is so very sad when siblings can't/won't talk face to face. Sometimes having a non-family member present will help.

My little group is hardly intimidating (one tries to be but is ignored) we are just totally non-communicative. After therapy I understand they are passive/aggressive and narcissistic as well. Makes it very difficult to take care of a loved one.

My response to sibling who tries to intimidate in person; I thank her for her input with no further comment.

Hugs and best wishes.
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Brandy, I agree about not opening your sister's emails. If she has something of importance to tell you, she should use the land line in the first place. As far as you BOTH being on this website, maybe that's a blessing in disguise. You can speak your mind to her thru this site, and not hold back. She won't intimidate the rest of us, believe me.
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Brandy....don't give your sister that kind of power over your life......start a new email, n continue to come n post to your "safe" place.....we need you around here....love n hugs ...Beck
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Debralee has it!
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