I joined this group in February 2018 when I was faced with the difficult decision to move my Mom to Assisted Living. It has been a journey unlike any other. I lost my brother at 40 in 1996. I lost my Dad in 2011 at 83. On Wednesday, May 1, 2019 my Mom left me too at 90. This death is unlike my brother and Dad because of this Assisted Living nightmare. I will never know if my Mom blamed me for her situation but she made the past eight years extremely difficult for me. All she did was yell and complain. We never had a decent conversation. When I visited her I couldn’t wait to leave. Holidays were a nightmare as she would yell and be very demanding. When she passed on Wednesday I didn’t want to leave her side. I saw such anguish in her face. No peace like I see in most people who pass from this life to the next. It is an image engrained in my mind. Did she hate her life that much the past eight years? She never recovered from the death of her son 23 years ago? I will never know. What I do know is that I have a cousin my Mom’s favorite niece that has refused to even contact me to say she is sorry for the loss of my Mom. This is beyond hurtful and I feel like the apple does not fall far from the tree in her treatment of me similar to how my Mom treated me. I did everything I could to tolerate my Mom. I took care of her well being making sure she was safe and cares for both in the home and financially while working full time.
It is now time for me to leave this wonderful support group. I wish all of you a journey of peace with your aging loved ones. Thank you all for your support over the past year and a half.