I would love to be able to celebrate the holidays with my family. This is the first year of my retirement, so traveling to visit my brother, his wife and their daughter wouldn't require juggling my work schedule and vacation time. They invite me every year for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Me going to them makes much more sense than them coming here, as they both still work and my home is much smaller than theirs. They are about a six hour drive from me, so a day trip isn't an option.
The problem is my 82 year old mom with dementia. She lives about 75 miles from me, which isn't that far when it's not winter, but we get intense winter weather here from about November through April. She refuses to spend a night away from home. Unless I want her to be alone on holidays, I have to spend them with her, just the two of us. Sometimes my aunt, uncle, cousin and her family will join us for a holiday meal that of course I have to prepare. Otherwise it's just she and I alone.
Occasionally my family does come and stay at my mom's. It is very hard for them not only due to distance and work, but they have two dogs among other pets. My mom loves animals and she has no issue with them in her home, except her cats have to be sequestered from the dogs. One of the dogs suffers from PTSD and can and does bite anyone outside of his immediate family, so that's also a problem.
Not really looking for solutions, as there really aren't any. Just wondering if anyone else faces these issues at holiday time.