I have feelings of resentment caring for my aging parents as they had a home in a warm state and left their elderly parents in my care.

I don't think it would be wise to take my parents into our home, but can see they are both suffering with memory loss and it will be the next crisis that puts them somewhere. How to balance when, where and under what circumstances is tough. Also, how do we begin to know if the money they have will hold out? Their monthly income is very good, but we know the savings could be gone quickly in assisted living situations.

I'm having a hard time with "love" too. I just can't seem to feel it for my parents, and they're not even remotely half the work that most people deal with here. I don't know how to answer your question, but I can relate to it. I'm kind to my parents, and affectionate but its a charade. If they both died today, I wouldn't shed a tear. It must be part of dementia, or just a part of aging, where elderly parents just don't seem to realize or care how much life they suck out of their children. I feel for you.