I hope I am welcomed as I pose a question as the fiance of a caregiver. We met in Los Angeles at work, and I then moved back to Georgia to be with my family. He has been taking care of his 88 year old Mother for about 10 years, and says he cannot move out to be with me and start our life because he can't leave her in the situation she's in now. Am I being selfish to think that he and his sister should find a nurse or arrange a home for her? She is not well at all, and my fiance is over there every night. I almost feel like the "other woman," and I'm just having a hard time understanding his devotion to her so much to the point that he sacrifices his own happiness and our future together. Anyone?