After recent visits with my mother that did not go well, I am realizing this is not the memories I want to have. In our case, we have always had a good relationship - even through my teen years - but as her primary caregiver, now I find myself feeling frustrated and angry much of the time I am with her. In large part I feel this is due to her having become a selfish and negative person as she has aged and, oddly not what I remember about her at all! So maybe my memories are flawed but at least they are much more pleasant and this is the relationship I would like to preserve - at least in my memories! Is that unrealistic? How do I put these recent bad experiences in perspective so that my good ones don't become tainted?