I don't think anyone can really knw how difficult care taking is if they are not in it daily!! In my alcoholic family the caregiver gets property so I've been told all my life. I have been caretaking my mom and various sick (mental and physical) family members or over 12 years. My mom is 91 and wants to give me property. It's not going over well with other family members. I feel guilty and I've done nothing wrong. I'm also very angry and resentful that I am regarded as a second class citizen in this family. I have had to fight to be respected and I don't want to fight anymore!