Our parents are in their 90s and 80s and live at home. I have two siblings who are older, their children are grown, one is retired. One lives in the same community and one is an 1 1/2 away. I'm 5 hours away, working full time and have three children under 16. Our parents really need 24-hour care because they are frail. Currently we're piecing together support for cleaning, cooking, etc. Lately I've been going there once a month but I get the impression that my siblings think I should be coming more, maybe taking off from work, skipping kids events to come down on the weekend, skipping family trips, etc. I am at least 15 years from retirement. I think we need to get together and talk about the expectations and set up a plan but when I go down, one has gone home for much needed rest and the other and I never seem to be able to get together to discuss this. Sure would like to hear some perspectives on this.