Great discussion by susie15 about an elder who refused to get out of bed- kind of got off track. What I wonder about daily is how we can plan for ourselves so our children don't have to deal with this nonsense. I have recently been on a tear getting MY paperwork in order. Making a trust, DNR, power of attorney , laying out my burial request and having that discussion with my son. I am 60, but have been put though the wringer and continue to live with difficult elders daily. I don't want to be "THAT" parent to my kids and DIL. So any other thoughts how to make this better for the next generation??