If you got paid a decent wage to caregive for your parents, do you think you'd be less stressed?

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I think it would make a shitty job better... "This job sucks, but at least I'm getting paid"!!

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I found a great website this morning when searching for states that permit family caregivers being paid. This link will take you to a document that provides contacts within states that permit the payment for family caregivers.

http://www.pascenter.org/documents/paid_family_caregiver_programs.pdf
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You couldn't pay me enough to go through that nightmare again!
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Just another comment as to getting "paid well" working through an agency I don't get the full pay as if a family member or a private caregiver would get, so, working Monday through Friday all day and all night, I am basically getting paid less then 7.50 an hour, just to put it out there, but it does pay the bills and I feel in my heart I am making a difference.
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I get paid to care for my husband's mother in our home and the money is only a tiny part of the job. The biggest stressor is the absolute lack of freedom you have and no amount of money can buy that back. She is in rehab again ( 3 weeks now) and you don't get paid until they are back under your roof. Last year was three months with no pay. I am now looking for full time work to avoid falling back into the financial rut last years stay put us in so what happens when/ if she comes home? If I don't get paid there won't be a home!
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Being a caregiver is hard no matter how you came to be one. I was downsized a few years ago making very good money as a legal assistant and was unable to find work in that field. I saw an ad for an agency and thought, wow that would be great to be a companion to someone and get paid for it, I thought much less stress. So, I scaled down my lifestyle and went for it. Let me just say my whole outlook on life has changed---for the better!!! I went through training for dementia and Alzheimer patients. Its very hard, especially when you give 110% and a lot of times no thank you, its hard when you become attached and really care for these people they become like your family, but we also have the option to move on if we want to. BUT, I did not grow up with these people so the family dynamics are not a part of the picture and I can deal with "mom" or "dad" without all the history. I commend you for caring for your parents (I didn't have that opportunity with my own parents and I am not sure I would have been able to given the history) and please, look into the paid situation, I have heard where family caregivers can get paid for the caring. I wish you the best and I wish I could help you....even for just one day!
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Since I spend the equivalent of almost a fulltime job taking care of my 91 year old grandmother, and just had the place I have worked for 17 years close, yes getting paid would be great. And essential. I don't think it's fair that just because I am family , I should be expected to do this for for free , when others get paid for exactly what I am doing. And they get paid very well. If his were a non family member, I would be getting paid. Very frustrated. And broke...
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Yes it would help a little with the stress BUT then would add another stressor as the other siblings would act like we're robbing her. Even though they don't want to help and don't do ANYTHING for her, they obviously think it's okay for us to pay for the gas and wear and tear on our car to take her to the doctors/stores/etc., extra electricity, using all my spare time for meals, medicine and housework having her in our home, having to use all my leave from work to take her to the doctors, etc. while caring for her (and not having any leave to take a real vacation) all while working full-time, married and raising a child. So my answer would be yes and no. I love her but it is still a hard job that I don't know if financial compensation would have made it any easier.
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NOT ME! I left home at 17 worked part time,got my own apt. & really never had anything to do with her. At 52 I retired moved to Fla. (my regret now) & now Im 61 & she has made my life a living HELL EVERY DAY SHE BREATHES. I have my own home & she has hers & there is NO NEED FOR HER to bother & harass me daily. I live alone by choice & my dad has passed. She is a recluse,doesnt drive,has no friends here & resents every person I speak to. So ABSOLUTELY NO AMOUNT OF MONEY would make me feel any better towards her. Sorry, but I cant stand her.
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It would be a nice addition,if it were not my mother!! She has always felt that if she gives you money she owns you so to speak.I take care of her and 3-5 grandkids every day.I am a sandwich.The kids are easier,because they are still learning.There is the guilt factor with money issues also,which sucks.
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In a word, yes. I gave up two jobs (among many other things) to be my mother's full time caregiver. I have no income, no insurance, and my savings (what little I had) are now gone. We live on her Social Security. So yes, being paid a decent wage would help. At least it would remove one of the stressors involved in this 24/7 job.
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