My mother went into a nursing home and has Alzheimer's. I am her POA and have a lot to do because I have to apply for financial aid for her, and any thing else that comes up. My siblings leave everything to me since I am POA. It is too much. I have a job and a family, too. I do not live near her. I am constantly handling issues after work and think about it all the time. I am in the middle of the application process for her to pay for nursing home. I have told my siblings I am very stressed and cannot do it all myself. They just say
"Oh, take care of yourself." and basically blow me off. I know they are just glad to have me deal with it all. Any advice?

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Lovingmom, how did you end up as POA? Did everyone yell "not it!" and you were last? Did you draw the short straw? Why are you stuck with this? Are you really stuck with it?

My advice is, if it got dumped on you, dump it back. Whenever there is too much on my plate, I take some stuff off. You have to reduce your load yourself.

Those without this responsibility have NO IDEA of what is involved. I spent 3 hours on the phone trying to get a resolution to two outstanding medical bills. And, I'm not confident this is the end of it. BTW this is the third or fourth time I invested that amount of time to resolve it. I am lucky in that I am retired. Still, no one offers ANY help and I have 2 sibs who are also retired. Don't expect it and you won't be disappointed.

The only possible suggestion I have , if you have to spend down, would you be able to hire an attorney/consultant to help with the application process. Good luck

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