My sister has been saying Mom needs to go into a home since Christmas and today I realized it's true. I can't do everything, there is no one to help me, I am supposed to be on vacation and I haven't had a day off in 10 days. Mom keeps getting worse. I am calling the assisted living place tomorrow. I just need to know where they will send her when the money runs out. She only has enough to last about two years. THe way she is going, I don't know if she will live that long anyway. I just know I can't do it anymore.
Anyone else put their parent in assisted living? I don't think she will want to go, but she doesn't want the sitters I hire to come to her apt. and I think she needs 24/7 care, which for in-home, costs more than assisted living.
My sister lives 2,000 miles away, my brother is useless and my aunt can't do much. There is no one but me and my mom's friend/neighbor. I have to go back to work Monday - who is going to do everything then?
Mom (81) had surgery in Sept., which no one wanted her to have, and she has gone steadily downhill since. I am 44 and feel like I no longer have any social life or friends because all I do is take care of mom. I can't go anywhere, I don't have time to return phone calls or emails, so I have no friends left. I am so burned out.
I called the local MAC about their support group and they never called back. I don't have time to go anyway. I asked what services they had (on a different phone call) and she said it would be two months before she could have Mom evaluated. So they are of no help. Anything that needs to be done, I will have to do it. I have to either leave her to her own devices or put her somewhere before I lose my mind. I feel so guilty, but it's kind of come down to me or her. I can't keep doing this. It's always a new crisis, this time I just happened to be off work. I'm going to go back more stressed than when I left.