We bought my widowed father in law's house and renovated the basement into our own apartment. Dad lives on the main floor. He's 86 and very independent. I am doing the cooking, laundry and occasionally help him do some if he heavier cleaning. I love him so much and he's such a great man, but sometimes he can be quite demanding and if he doesn't get his way he can say some pretty hurtful things. I know the logic behind the elderly acting out, but my heart and my feelings don't always listen to the logic :( My husband is my best friend and bless his heart, he walks this path right with me, yet to explain that his father can occasionally be like this makes me feel like I'm putting my husband in an impossible position. Can anyone else relate?