Unless we get a little time to grocery shop or something important if someone comes over to stay with her and care for her. This has been a most difficult time day in and day out but she has been the best mother possible to all of her children and we don't want to put her in a NH unless absolutely necessary. The thing is that we have friends that had a parent in a facility that cared for the person 24/7. And this was even in a different state. The couple kept in touch with a sibling who did most of the work in keeping the parent there, as far as I know. The thing is, I have been told that this person was going through the same thing that I was. I tried to explain that it was different as I was with my parent almost 24/7 and caring for her, but this other person only knew most of the time what was going on but didn't have to take care of him. I think a couple of times they would make a trip there and get a hotel room and visit, but to me this sounds like a vacation! I don't mean to complain and I'm really not, but would just like other opinions if you think this is the same. I was told people deal with this in different ways and each one goes through a different thing in their own way. I agree with this but as far as caring for the person goes, I think this is a big difference.