I'm sure some of you have read the continuting saga of this dysfunctional family I have.
Last December my mother hit me, and told me she was going to take me out of her trust. We had a huge fight. I lost my patience, and my temper at that time.
I am an only child. I "was" due to inherit approximatley one million dollars from my mothers trust.
My cousin is the executor of my mothers estate. This cousin is also a membr of my mothers cult religion.
My cousin was just here these last few days and is leaving today to go home to Oregon. While he was here because of the distrubing news regarding what my step-dad did (please read previous posts); he wanted to go see mom's attorney and see if there was a way that he could become the trustee of her trust while she is still alive. Before he went to see the attorney, my mother's power of attorney called me and told me she wanted me to come over to her home and read my mothers trust. She felt I was putting too much trust in my cousin who is the Executor of her trust once she dies. My mother and I have not had a good relationship over the years and I had finally come to the conclusion that we would never have a good relationship. Ok, so that being the case then I wan NEVER TO SEE, OR KNOW WHAT IS IN HER TRUST. So, of course I flew over to this womans home to read what was in the trust. Moms original will stated that I am to get 70% of her trust, my two children will get 15%, and mom's cult church will get 15%.
Ok, now some background before I go on. When my mother had her trust drawn up in 2015 my cousin took her to see the attorney. About two weeks after she did this my mother told me that she was upset with my cousin because he had tried to talk her into giving me only 50% of her trust, then the grandchildren 15%, then the neices and nephews 20%, and the church 15%. My mother said that this made her angry at my cousin, and that she told him in no way would she do that to me. I actually documented this conversation with my mother.
Ok, now, apparently back in Decembr of 2017, my cousin was here and mom wanted to make some minor changes to her trust, so he took her down to see the attorney. Well, when I was asked to go over to my mothers Power of Attorneys the other day and read her trust and all amendments to that trust I found the latest amendment which was dated this past December when my cousin took mom to see her attorney to make some minor changes to her trust. Well, when I read that amendment I almost fell off of the chair when the amendment dropped me down to getting 50%, the grandchildren 15%, THE NIECES AND NEPHEWS getting 20%, and the church getting 15%!!!
Ok, I know this gets complicated, but bear with me. My mother is now in a home with dementia. She comes in and out of her dementia. On Monday this week my mother called the Power of Attorney because she wanted to talk to her. So the Power of Attorney went to see her. My mother told her that she wanted her to take her down to the attorneys office BECAUSE she wanted to amend her trust BACK TO THE ORIGINAL TRUST where I am to receive 70% of the trust. My mother told her that my cousin, in December, had talked her into changing her trust and she didn't think that was right. Mom told the power of attorney that this latest amendment was not fair to me.
So, the Power of Attorney on Monday took mom to see her attorney. Now, this is what happened. The attorney "told' my mother that this whole trust had become such a mess that he didn't want mom to change anything, and to leave it AS IS !!! So, my mother left it as is. I thought an attorney was not supposed to "tell" someone what that someone should do !!!!!
When I read this latest amendment to the trust, I almost went through the roof !!!! Also, when mom's Power of Attorney told me what happened on Monday I just lost it!!!!!
I am not a rich person at all !!! I am on social security and trust me it is not much and I struggle all of the time with it. I will admit that after finding out " what was in the original trust I did think that this much money could most definately secure my future.
I came here soley to help take care of my mother, AND SHE HAS DONE THIS TO ME!!!!
Here, I do all of this stuff for my Step-dad who is a jerk, and I do a lot of stuff for my mother even though she is in a home and this is my thanks.
I told the Power of Attorney of my mothers trust that my mother could have "demanded" to the attorney to change back her trust to the original trust, AND IF HE DIDN'T CHANGE IT, then she could have threatened him that she would seek another attorney to do this for her. I know my mother is tighter than the bark on a tree. The Power of Attorney told me that my mother would not pay another attorney $3,000 to do another trust. So, basically I'm not even worth $3,000 to my mother to get this trust changed. I am her only heir left and she had done this to me. Right now I'm so angry that I just want to move away !!!!