Last week my dad (92 with advanced dementia) came down with aspiration pneumonia. We all thought it was the end. He was on oxygen and antibiotics. We couldn't even wake him up. The nursing home held a 'family meeting' and we agreed it was time for Hospice or comfort care measures.
Fast track to today... 7 days later. I go to the Nursing Home and he is sitting in his wheelchair in the dining room waiting for lunch to be served!! He actually recognized me and asked me if I brought my mother with me. I fed him half his lunch and half his drink. Most I've seen him eat in 7 days. I brought him outside and he commented that it was 'a nice day today'. He fell asleep within about 10 minutes but this was the best I've seen him in months! Usually he is totally confused, distant & doesn't talk or doesn't make sense.
I am shocked by this turnaround. It is such a rollercoaster to one day think it is their last and then the next day they seem almost normal again! This past week has been up and down but today was definitely an UP day. I'm almost afraid that from here it goes down quick again. Every single day I just don't know what to expect.
Don't get me wrong... I'm happy to see him in a good mood and feeling better, but it's just such a shock to the system. I mean...we were discussing end of life last week! Anyone have this happen to their loved one? I'm glad I had a nice visit today but I'm afraid to be happy about this change.